Talking about feelings and stuph can get pretty deep, which isn’t bad, but in an attempt to keep things a little lighter I will begin every feeling with the Urban Dictionary definition. The feelings that you should never feel shame about are, but are not limited to, as follows:

1. Lust

“A large physical attraction for an individual, that is sometimes uncontrollable and completely unreasonable. It's the emotion that makes you want to screw people.” -UD

Lust has found us all at some point. Whether it was in third grade or in your thirties. But, just because it might not be genuine doesn’t mean it is pointless. Don’t be embarrassed that you thought you loved your sexy professor, we’ve all been there.

2. Love

“Nature's way of tricking people into reproducing” -UD

I don’t even know how to describe love. It’s extraordinary and having a potential shot at it is nothing short of that. There’s a misconception that “catching feels” for someone is a negative thing but no, fuck that. You should not be embarrassed if you develop feelings for someone. Having feelings for someone does not mean you are in love with them, maybe you find yourself simply wanting to see them a little more, talk to them more, just experience them more - and that’s awesome. Never stop showing love to yourself, to others and in everything you do. So if you’ve found someone you want to go get tacos with at 3 a.m., someone to watch the sunrise with, someone you know will jam with you to a dope playlist, well then I hope you catch feelings cause that shit is so rad.

3. Sadness

“Plain rice crispies” -UD

“One of the many emotions that defines us as complex human beings. Sadness brings us together, tears us apart and challenges our capacity and will to live.” -UD

Happiness is huge, but it isn’t everything. Life can be tough and dealing with loss, or pain in general, can be tougher. But you should be comfortable with your emotions - you are allowed to feel sad, you are allowed to mourn and you are allowed to cry. There is no shame in sorrow, just don’t wallow in it.

4. Anxiety

“The feeling of immense nervousness or fear, that can only be cured by the help of the cute guy/girl that you can’t get out of your head” -UD

I can’t even stress how natural it is to feel anxious. If you ask me I think even Buddha, the zennest of zen probably had a worry or two. Yet, we are diagnosing people left and right with a feeling like it’s a serious illness. Yes, some people may have it worse than others but resorting to pills or medication should not be our first reaction to unwanted feelings. Understand and appreciate your feelings, good and bad - because they help make you who you are. It is expected for you to be anxious about finals, work, school, honestly anything - if it matters to you it is justifiable.

5. Regret

“A strong emotion that comes over one after realizing that they have really fucked up.” -UD

Living with regret can be one of the hardest but most vital parts of life. If you fuck up - learn from it, grow from it and don’t let the past repeat itself. No regrats.

6. Fear

“The feeling you experience when it's midnight, you're sitting by your pc masturbating over the sickest porn imaginable, your underwear and jeans are 20 feet away...and you hear your mom coming downstairs.” -UD

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Gotta hand this one over to my man FDR. “Only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” You should be fearful, but you should not let it keep you from living your life to the fullest. Fear is a mental obstacle - learn to recognize the truth behind your fears, understand it and fuckin’ conquer your life dude.

7. Happiness

“Having everything you need. All the people, the drugs, the atmosphere. Everything.” -UD

You deserve to be happy. Don’t let anyone tell or make you think otherwise. Happiness is not selfishness.

8. Alone

“What you're not. Although it may seem like there is nobody there who cares about you, who is like you, or can be a friend to you, there is someone miles and miles away who would like to be there with you if they knew you were calling.” -UD

First of all, thanks to whoever wrote this^, you are incredible.

"Why are you going alone? Do you not have friends? Why don’t you have a boyfriend? Do you like being alone? Wait... you came alone?" Having time to yourself is so crucial, learn to be comfortable with it and I promise you will learn so much. People act like if you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend you’re like a love h8er. But just because Idon't want a boyfriend doesn't mean I look at couples and gag at the sight. OK, I still smile stupidly at the TV while watching rom-coms, I don’t skip Taylor Swift songs on the radio because they remind me of love, I skip them because they’re trash. Lol I’m just kidding, kinda. But seriously, I think feeling alone is probably one of the most common yet disguised feelings. Being alone is OK. Also, just because someone is surrounded by people all the time does not necessarily mean they don’t feel alone so don’t assume. Reach out to people, lift them up, show love. And don't trip if you are feeling alone - because we are all in this together.

You are doing so well

If you’re sad, happy, anxious, in love, or heartbroken - congratulations you are human! You are completely entitled to your feelings and you should never, ever, feel ashamed of them. We are a result of our experiences so get out there and experience your own heart break, your own love, regret, happiness, sadness and keep experiencing it. Embrace and appreciate your own heart and everything that comes from it.

Wavy Baby