We as Christians feel kind of pressured when we think about who we will marry. When our family and friends ask us about our love life and when we plan on getting serious, we often shy away from answering because we are single and don't know when we will get serious with someone. It's a common question asked by everyone, but it shouldn't be a question that we fear because we don't know who we will marry or because we are afraid that we might not get married.

God has a certain path in mind for everybody. We shouldn't be rushing to go down it. We should be patient in prayer about what we will encounter on the path. If we're single and nervous that there isn't going to be somebody out there for us, we should take a look at God's promises. God promises that when we ask for things in His will, that He will listen to us, (1 John 5:14). When we are following God and giving our hearts and lives to Him, He will hear our thoughts and prayers and He won't disregard them. That goes for all of life. When we ask something in His will, He won't turn us away.

We all think of the perfect person for us. We all have this image in our head of how they will look, how they will act in front of people as well as by themselves, what their personality is like, what they have experienced, and when the heck they will get here!

I mean, man, it would be nice if I just knew now who I am going to marry! I want to know when and where we will meet or if I have already met him. I wonder what he is doing now and if he has read his Bible today or prayed. I wonder what his life has been like and what his goals are. I wonder if he has been praying for me like I've been praying for him.

Most times, we get so caught up in the trivial details that we forget that what we are really looking for is someone who loves and pursues Christ with their whole heart. If they do, then we know that they will love and pursue us with the same passion. We are looking for someone to be a loving, kind, patient and honest spouse and parent. We are looking for someone that will pray with us in public and in private and someone that will pray for us every day.

Just as we expect those things for the person who will someday be our husband/wife and parent to our children, we must strive toward those goals in our own lives. We must work toward being patient, kind, faithful, honest and pursuing God.

As we struggle with loneliness, singleness and feeling like there is nobody for us, we must realize that once we become faithful that God is working for our own good, He will give us the desires of our hearts. What we long for most is what we already have in Christ. Once we find fulfillment in His word, His promises, His companionship, and His love, only then will be be ready to receive what we have asked for.

Until God reveals who my future husband is, I will be fervently praying for him.

I pray that he shares my interests, my passions, my sense of humor and my love for our Maker. I pray that he is humble, kind, joyful, funny, patient and honest. I pray that we will laugh uncontrollably together in the middle of the night because of something only mildly funny to other people. I pray that I can come to him with anything and that he will give me guidance and pray with me on the spot. I pray that we can dance together even when no music is playing. I pray that he can cook well because God knows I'm going to need help in the kitchen. I pray that he loves missions because God has given me that passion. I pray that he will know just how I like my coffee (that's a super important one).

Most of all, I pray that he works hard and diligently. I pray that he strives to glorify God in everything he does. I pray that He is fulfilling God's calling on his life right now. I pray that his heart and soul have been totally surrendered to Jesus.

I pray that I be patient in this time of waiting and anticipation and that God keeps watering in me a heart that will seek only after His will. I pray that I will be a good wife who will be just as the church is with Christ. I pray to be a wife that is hopeful and faithful to follow their husband anywhere, like Sarah. I pray to be a wife with character and trust in God's plan, like Ruth. I pray to be a wife with courage and control of her emotions, like Esther. And I pray to be a wife who serves the Lord despite the trials she may go through, like Mary.

Whoever is reading this that has been needing to hear this message, I know where you stand. I know what you feel and I know your anticipation and anxiety about this subject. If you are struggling with this at all, whether the struggle be not knowing who or when, or the struggle of trust in the Lord, pray about it. Pray for your future spouse, that they are doing the Lord's will. Remember this: God has something much bigger and better in mind than you have for yourself. He is molding your spouse's heart to be exactly what you need. Pray for patience for the both of you and an open heart to God's will and timing. Don't settle for someone that isn't exactly right for you just because you want to just be married already. Be patient and God will reveal to you exactly the person He has made for you