Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly 

I never have considered myself a "perfectionist" or someone not willing to fail, but upon further review, the jury has concluded that these assumptions are wrong. As I have journeyed further in this life, I have become more aware and mindful of my thoughts and actions. I always assumed a "perfectionist" had to have straight A's or a type A personality, but perfection is an elusive creature that anyone can track.

Taking a look back on my grade school days, I definitely encompassed the traits of a perfectionist. I remember thinking to myself, I would rather turn nothing in at all than something that does not represent my worth. This thought process has a lot to unpack, but let's stick with one thing at a time.

I still struggle with accepting that not everything I do can be as fantastical as I imagine it to be. I say this to not discourage your big dreams, but to help you pursue a life you cannot even imagine. When you come eye to eye with the monster Perfection, you will realize it's your own reflection looking back at you. You are already perfect how you are, your work is already laced in perfection just because it's yours.

Someone else's beauty can never take away from your own; Sexiness is a mindset.

I originally had these two phrases divided, but I feel they complimented each other too well to not have them together. I honestly do not remember where I heard the first part of this quote, but it has stuck with me. We can all be green with envy when we see someone who is just out-of-this-world beautiful.

We also know that social media has increased our chances of seeing someone who, quite literally, is unattainably beautiful, and by that, I mean photoshop. Again, this can be a whole other tangent about the negative effects of social-media but I promise I will stay on track.

We are all unique and can obviously have certain features we may like more than others, but we are so much more than this bag of matter we tote around. Our being is what makes us beautiful, our passions, our Loves, our relationship with the world around us, our souls; these are the derivatives of our essence, inaccessible to anyone or anything else. Your beauty cannot be stolen.

The second phrase is "Sexiness is a mindset." This has gotten me through so many days of feeling frumpy, or just feeling down about myself. Some days I am FEELING myself, feeling like royalty, and others I feel like an old crusty sponge and barely human.

Considering I am still "me" on both of these types of days, there is only so much variation that can actually occur. I was "sexier", "prettier", or somehow "worthier" on those other days, just by THINKING I was those things. The mind is powerful, and you are what you think.

It is okay to not be "chill" 

This last phrase has come to me more recently in life. I feel that the idea of "being chill" is completely overrated. I have had so many, what I can only describe as, bouts of anxiety by trying to seem like I am something that I am not. I think that being honest with ourselves about everything is the only way we can learn and grow from our life experiences.

I know that I get nervous in new environments and just telling myself or opening up to the people that I'm around by saying "I have no chill" or admitting that I am nervous, flips the social game on its head. By identifying the beast, you have stripped it of its power and can move on with your day. Trying to force relaxation and ease of mind is just going to take you in the opposite direction.