Many people have their own definition of what a “slut" is. According to several dictionaries, a slut is a promiscuous woman with many casual sex partners.
In the collegiate society of today, participation in one-night stands and random hookups are normal for young adults. No one even thinks to really care or understand the matter, so this popular derogatory noun is consistently stamped onto women. If a woman has been with a few men it would seem to them that a woman has been up and down the streets, when if the roles were reversed, men would be praised for their so called “game."
These days, many have become more open about the discussion of sex. It's crucial that young adults being launched into the real world stop being afraid of discussing such matters and own up to all behaviors. But what has seemed to change is the crass judgments on young women just because of their sex lives.
It is so easy for anyone to utter those passive arbitrations. Any woman could just be someone who for the first time has the ability to be single and free. Or they maybe have never experienced the emotional and physical connection before in their lives and are making the most of meeting new people. It is her making her own decisions, her own choices.
As a college student and member of a sorority, the hookup lifestyle is clearly not unnoticed. Frankly, it is inordinately ridiculous and disgusts me that there are people putting a label on someone based on their sexual activity. Don't get me started on prude shaming. Even if their sexual activity isn't much, it doesn't mean they don't deserve the same rightful respect.
My advice is to absorb the power of femininity from women like Jennifer Lawrence, make your own choices, and use your strength without giving others the opportunities to write those labels on your life. Do not, not even for a second, allow even yourself to make those distasteful verdicts on women you know or don't know at all.
Especially don't let a friend's reputation hinder your friendship. Just because her actions don't suit your certain ideals doesn't mean she isn't a great, beautiful, educated and successful adult. It is never okay to make a woman feel any less than she really is because of her sex life. The way this society is transforming to being more equal and accepting, obstructing that transition would set us back and not make the world any better.
