"Don't let what he wants eclipse what you need. He's very dreamy, but he's not the sun. You are."

-Cristina Yang

We all remember this infamous quote from Grey's Anatomy. Cristina Yang in her final moments on the show shared some earth shattering news with Meredith that a lot of girls just don't seem to see these days. She turns away before she leaves and speaks these words into her best friends life that remind her that she is brilliant, and beautiful and she can do this on her own. In so many words she was reminding Meredith not to settle.

I use Grey's Anatomy because it's so relatable. Most every girl has seen it and either identifies with Cristina or Meredith or is completely repulsed by the two of them. However their friendship is by far the best part of the show. So when Cristina turns around and says those words it made me wonder, how many other girls need to be reminded that they are the sun and HE (i.e. the boyfriend or guy) is not?

I was a high school girl just like the rest, I found my security in a boyfriend. I made plans around what they were doing and my mood was based solely on the way they first reacted towards me in the morning. My mood was effected by theirs. It was hard for me after my last break up because I had a hard time figuring out why I should be the sun. I had made every boyfriend I had ever had the center of my world. I continually defined myself as whatever I felt like they saw me as.

Now, as a college student I sit here in a more "knowledgeable" seat. I watch relationships and I've learned a lot about myself along the way. My heart breaks for the girls who believe that HE's the sun and not them. The girls that don't understand that eventually that light will fade and then you're left in the dark. If you make someone your whole world before you're ready, then your whole world will most definitely fall apart when they leave. When I finally figured out that I needed to stop and figure myself out it was like I didn't know where to begin. I had always been a strong and confident girl but for some reason I wasn't sure who I was anymore, who my friends were or even what made me, me.

Once I began exploring who I was I was opened up to many different sides of myself that I hadn't even experienced. I learned things that were BIG about me like that I hated to be "shushed" or that I wanted to be a writer. I also found out things that were small about me, like that I loved raspberry lemonade from La Madeline or I love to shop. (It's actually become an addiction.)

Once you take a step back and realize that there is someone who wants to be the SON in your life, Jesus Christ, then it's hard to ever let someone else be the sun or the center of your world.

Remember, He's not the sun, he's never going to be the sun and if you make him your sun he will disappoint you.

He's not the sun, YOU are.