You get sad and once you express your feelings he says you’re sad for a stupid reason. Somehow you’re not even arguing about what made you sad to begin with. You’re now spending hours in an argument trying to validate how you feel. You suddenly feel bad about how you feel and start to think, “Maybe he’s right," “Maybe this is a stupid reason to be upset.” Even though you have every right to be.

You come to the realization of this becoming a pattern. You start to feel guilt before he even says anything. You end up brushing off your emotions because it would just cause more problems. I wish you realized how silly it is. How silly it is to think your emotions are a problem.

All these emotions are going to start to build up. You spent too much time trying to ignore them. One day you're going to blow up and the only thing that will change is that he no longer thinks it's stupid. He now think's you're just overreacting.

He probably isn't as sensitive as you are, but that's no excuse. He'll probably point the finger at you and say that you're always the one getting upset. As if being upset should be looked down upon. I hope you know that it's not your fault. Emotions are meant to be felt and I'm sorry he is making you feel otherwise.

I want you to know you have every right to feel any emotion. If you’re sad and he decides that it's for a stupid reason. Let him think it’s stupid. You don’t have any reason to validate the way you feel. I would give you the advice to leave him because I know you can find someone who will be caring towards your emotions, but I know it's not always that easy.

The next time you ever feel like you have to reason for feeling a specific way, I want you to stop yourself. You never have to validate why you’re happy so why should you when your sad? You are entitled to any emotion that you carry. Never feel bad about feeling a certain way and never let anyone make you feel bad for it. You are allowed to feel the emotions you receive and I hope in time you'll realize that.