I don’t know if it’s just my Facebook newsfeed or other people are experiencing the same thing, but lately I feel like I’ve seen a lot of different articles on the topic of “what men look for in a woman.” Whether the article takes the form 9 Qualities In A Woman Which Will Make Any Guy Fall For Her or The Difference Between The Girls I've Dated And The Woman I'll Marry, one thing is clear: people are obsessed with giving women instructions on how to be wife material. And here’s the thing: most of the women I’m surrounded by don’t give a rat’s ass whether they’re the type of woman most men might commit to. Here’s why that’s a smart choice.

1. All men want something different and women are well aware of it.

As much as the media wants to stuff an image of the “ideal woman” down our throats, the reality is that every man falls for different things. Sure, perfect hair and a degree in dealing with entitled men might sound good on paper, but that’s probably not going to get you wifed up for more than two minutes. Real-life men, similarly to real-life women, have different qualities and personalities and priorities. To simplify those differences in a five hundred word article is, technically speaking, pretty f*cking stupid.

2. Contrary to popular belief, women do not exist to live up to a perfect prototype.

I know, this is kind of a shocker, but women actually do have goals in life that extend past male approval and childrearing. Some women aspire to be better friends, better sisters, better mothers, better at their job, better at being human -- but the ones who actually aspire to be perfect girlfriends are usually the most unhappy ones.

3. Not all women are looking for a committed relationship with men. (And not all women are looking for men, either.)

I realize this may also come as a surprise, but some women do indeed enjoy being single. And just like certain men enjoy whipping out a list of things women need to do for them to commit, women are also capable of coming up with their own list. For instance, the first thing on my list would be a man who doesn’t try to tell me what to do.

4. Those articles make it seem like finding a quality woman is something incredibly rare.

It's pretty insulting to read article after article feeling like whoever wrote that crap thought all women were shallow and superficial airheads. In real life, the women I'm surrounded with are confident, intelligent, inquisitive, and call men out on their BS. And you know what? That doesn't make men flock to them with engagement rings because it's just not so rare. Women are amazing creatures.

5. You don’t need to change yourself because there is someone out there who will love you just the way you are.

Otherwise, how are there so many shallow or unpleasant-looking or selfish people in committed relationships? Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re a perfect person, just that there’s someone who likes you the way you are enough to (at least try to) not stick their tongue down someone else’s throat. You could be a runway model with a phD in curing cancer, but that doesn’t guarantee that every man will fall in love with you. The truth is that love is unpredictable and annoying as sh*t. So if you’re trying to get wifed up, you really don’t need to change yourself. (Unless, of course, you’re reading those stupid articles on how to be wife material. In that case, please change yourself.)