Sometimes dating someone with children can be difficult when you don't have any of your own... yet

I know when I first started talking to someone with children I was scared. I wasn't ready to be parent overnight. I wasn't ready to have children around me 24/7. I wasn't ready for the 'baby mama' drama. I wasn't ready to have children of my own yet, hardly someone else's. I just wasn't ready for any of it. Not only was I scared I was nervous I would mess up, but I was also scared the children wouldn't like me or think that I was trying to replace their mother.

After awhile I realize, I like this person enough to give it a shot with someone with children. If I fail, it's okay, it's not the end of the world. I won't be a parent overnight like I thought. I just became another role model for them to look up to and I was okay with that. Children always need positive influences in their life and I felt I could be one for them. It's completely unexpected when you fall in love with the children as much, if not more, then you fell in love with them. I never realized it was a possible to look at someone and physically feel the love you have for that person. As if the love was centered in the middle of your stomach and every time they look in your direction or giggle their innocent giggle the emotion is physically felt. I don't know how else to explain it since it's my personal feeling, except I've never felt anything as powerful and overwhelming as it. Their children become such a huge part of your life you begin to start fantasizing about having your own one day and completing your family.

Our lives filled with working and taking care of things, we often forget what it feels like to just have fun, the way a kid knows how to naturally. Dating someone with children gives you an excuse to relive the joy of going and doing things. Kids can have an innocence and contagious way about them and how they see and approach life no matter who you are or what kind of personality you possess if you are in the company of children you can't help but be full of happiness and love.

I know everything in life isn't lollipops and gumdrops and there will be issues that complicate dating someone with children regardless if you have any of your own. I just strongly believe that if you wholeheartedly obtain feelings for the person you're in a relationship with you can't help but have even stronger feelings for their child/children. The simplicity of them being a mini version of your boyfriend/girlfriend and the fact they carry a part of them makes that child special. I can only hope if I so happen to become a single mother that whomever I date excepts, involves, protects and loves my children as they would their own, because anything else is completely unacceptable to me.