If you're reading this, you're lonely, sad, single probably. You're looking for answers. You turned to the internet. I probably even pulled you in with that sad looking black and white photo I found on Google.

You poor loser.

But really, why are you looking online for the answers to this question? What do you really think you'll find? Someone who might relate to you? Someone who speaks your mind? Someone who, maybe just for a moment, will allow you to feel a little less alone in this huge mad world, someone who will tell you you're beautiful and special and one of a kind?

Well I could have chosen to do that, but then I'd be in the mass of those thousands of feel-good articles that make your day but are forgotten the minute your person is threatened once again. I may still be one of those forgotten, throw-away articles by the end of this, but at least I'll go down with dignity.

There is something to be said to those who are lonely. And just to clarify, there are many different types of lonely. There's the typical lonely, walking around day by day watching all the strange and awkward people you know get into relationships while you wonder what the hell is going on. The kind of lonely where it's mostly just your close friends who all decided to jump ship on the SS-We're-Fun-And-Single and swam ashore to Taken-And-Too-Tired-4-U Island.

You can even be lonely while in a relationship, too, and that can be tricky. Sometimes we sign up for a cable company we think will be awesome, which later ends up not being a great fit, but you can't seem to call Comcast to cancel because you know they'll put you on hold for hours and it will take up a lot of time and raise your blood pressure and then you're like, "Well, maybe this cable company isn't too bad," and you live the rest of your days convincing yourself you don't really miss channels 4-7 even though it kills you inside.

Anyway, lots of ways to feel lonely.

And I think the problem here is that a lot of people are willing to talk about how to not be lonely. People want to read and write about ways to fill that sad, sink hole in your chest, so they clog it with their non-sense words.

"It's just not the right time for you to find someone."

"Just be yourself!"

"You're strong, beautiful, and perfect. Anyone who doesn't see that isn't worth you."

These responses are fine to hear. In fact, they even satisfy some part of you for the time being. Once you're given half a second to think about it however, you realize:

It's just not the right time for you to find someone.

… Wait, I need a time to be loved? Did my time already pass when I was dating Steve? Do I still have Steve's number? Oh God.

Just be yourself!

You see, just being my self seems to be the problem here.

You're strong, beautiful, and perfect. Anyone who doesn't see that isn't worth you.

I'm not worth me.

Just because your frustrations aren't the most fun thing to hear, or console, or most importantly, to feel, doesn't mean they aren't valid. We live in a politically correct and self-love focused society now, which is a very positive and moving change — but that doesn't make our pity parties any less important. It's your party, and you can cry if you want to. Be negative! Blast 2005 All Time Low and burn stuff!

Yeah, life is ugly. You can be ugly, too. We don't need to pretend that being lonely is so easy to beat, so easy to look past. Let's talk about those lonely days when you wake up in the morning and feel like a trash can kicked over on its side. What do I need to do? You ask. How do I need to dress, how do I need to act, what kind of person do I need to be to be worthy of someone else? Why do I constantly have to see the beauty and the significance in others but those same people don't see it in me?

Boom, baby. That last question is the zinger.

Why do we live in a world that forces us to look at one another with such love and admiration, while they have not just the right, but the innate inability to reciprocate that? Maybe God built this world just to watch it burn.

Maybe I'm being dramatic.

I've asked a lot of questions in this article so far and answered none of them, and if you were looking for answers, please enjoy the following joke:

I'm 20 years old and also lonely.

(So if at any time you do come across some answers, let a sister know.)

But like I mentioned before, this is not an article meant for answers. It's just a small anecdote about life, and how its not always what we want it to be. We can talk ourselves into positive thinking and hopeful faith, but when you take a huge dump in that guest's house that you barely know and try to spray Febreeze to cover up the smell, do you know what you get?

Flower-scented poop. We all know what you did. It lingers.

I suppose this article needs a point however, so here it is: let yourself feel lonely, but not for too long. Be sad, but make it snappy. Cry a little, but get yourself together.

Sometimes when I'm sad I'll turn on my clean, running drinking water and think, "Hey, it's cool that I have this."

Life's too short, and it appears as more days pass our list of fish to fry grows and grows. But you know what I say to that? I say that is Future You's problem. We all need to take the time to understand what we're feeling – to purge out all that poison like a freshman in college after their first alcoholic party. Here's your official invitation.