After serving as a mascot of the dorm for years, the loss of the beloved Keller Cat has devastated Keller-dwellers at Auburn University.
The one-eyed local celebrity, known for faithfully greeting the residents of Helen Keller Hall, has been reported missing by The Plainsman this week. After seeing girls through their transition to collegiate life, this loss can be especially heartbreaking.
Having very strong and profound feelings of grief after the disappearance (and assumed death) of a symbol such as the Keller Cat is normal. Our animal companions bring out the best in us, so when we lose them, we often feel we have lost some part of ourselves. Here are some of the common reactions you might experience and strategies to help you endure through these painful emotions:
Intense sadness.
You may feel devastated and broken-hearted. You might cry a lot. You say, “My dear
Helen should be here. I just can’t accept that she’s really gone.” Time will
help you heal. Allow yourself to grieve, but if that becomes too painful, take
a break and distract yourself by going on a walk or getting Starbucks with
friends.
Guilt.
Guilty
feelings keep us from having to accept the reality of the loss. We think, “If
only I had appreciated Helen the Keller Cat while she was here.” This is a
normal feeling, but we need to remember the good life we gave to our furry
friend and that we did the best we could.
Anxiety.
You may
wonder, “Can I get through this?” The answer is “Yes!” Give yourself some time
and space, and take it one day at a time. Give yourself what you need: comfort
food, naps, time with friends. Let others know that you’re going through a
difficult time so they can support you as well.
When you’re ready, consider how you would like to honor the memory of your beloved Keller cat. Consider writing a poem or holding candlelight ceremony in hopes that it might help you to accept the loss. Remember that Helen the Keller Cat would not want us to stay sad; it’s most likely her desire that we go on and be happy and love again someday.
Finally, remember that you are blessed. After all, you were privileged enough to be a person who shared in that special animal’s life. You two developed a unique bond that has changed who you are for the better, and that can never be taken away. May the spirit of the Keller Cat live in our hearts forever!