Relationships are hard. We all are aware of that. Whether it's a friendship, family member, or with your significant other no relationship ever comes easy. It requires a lot of time, effort, work, and focus.
If you’re looking for a little advice when it comes to self-love and the relationship you have with yourself and others you’ve come to the right place.
1. Love yourself
Putting yourself first might seem selfish, but you have to love yourself first. You can't love anyone more until you love yourself completely first. Once you love yourself beyond measures you are able to love another with all you got. This as been one of the best relationship tips I have ever gotten. With learning to love myself first I realized how much love one can truly give once they love themselves completely. We must love our flaws they aren't going anywhere so might as well learn to love them right? You will learn that as soon as you begin to love yourself inside and out others will too!
2. Put in effort
In any kind of relationship you have to put in effort. We all know the phone works both ways so pick it up give whoever it may be a ring, send a text and let them know you care even if it's just to ask "How are you?" a simple text can go a long way. When it comes to relationships we all know that smallest of things can have the biggest impact. Not all girls care for fancy dates and expensive meals we just want to see the details boys put in same goes for guys, and friends! It's not the gifts you give each other for birthdays but the things you do every day that count the most.
3. You are responsible for your OWN happiness
If you are looking for someone to complete you or make you happy, you are looking in all the wrong places. You have to look at yourself and create your own happiness. Yes, we all have a special someone that brings happiness and joy into our life but we can't count on them to make us happy. Just how we have to create our own life we have to create our own happiness.
4. Respect
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
YES! You must respect one another and be understanding of each other's feelings and emotions. It may be hard to fully understand someone since we are all different but learning each other's flaws, weaknesses, and desires will impact relationships greatly. We may not agree 100% with what our loved ones do but we must also be respectful of the decisions they make.
5. Honesty
Don't keep things hidden under lock and key you may be setting yourself up to explode. Always be honest. It's like they say: honesty is the best policy. There have been multiple times where I held back on things I really want to say because it might be mean or hurt someone's feelings but being honest will be a lot easier then bursting or keeping everything hidden for years and years!6. Be Supportive
When it comes to friendships, family members and the love of our life we must always be supportive. Everyone has hopes, dreams, and desires some more than others and though some dreams may seem too big, or impossible we must be supportive and encouraging. Yes some can go on without any encouragement but others can get discouraged quickly and feel that everything they so desired is simply unattainable.
7. Love, Love, give LOVE!
I do believe if this world was surrounded by love we would all be more understanding of all the different life that surrounds us. & When it comes to that special someone you must love one another unconditionally. You must give your 110% to the person who is giving you the same. Love your family and friends love them every day because you never know when it could be the last.
8. Learn to let love in
Everyone ends up with a broken heart at some point in their life and although there are many different ways a heart can break when you and the person who felt was the love of your life break up it's easy to believe the whole world fell apart at your feet. It takes time to heal a couple of weeks, months, sometimes even years. it's not easy to move on especially when you don't want to feel that heartache ever again! I'm here to tell you it's okay to let love in and I don't mean go off and jump into the next relationship that comes your way NO! Let love in... love for hobbies, passions, things you can love and won't break your heart because YOU are the one in charge and when then time is right you will find yourself falling in love with someone at the perfect time and place. Never be afraid of the many forms you can let love into your life.
9. Forgiveness
Everyone fights.. friends, family, and spouses.It's normal we are humans sometimes we have had a rough day, other times we are just angry and let out ur anger to the person we love and without wanting to we hurt people's feelings. Then you end up arguing with each other over something that has little to no importance, yes you might have said things that were cruel but say sorry!! And if you were the one who got hurt then forgive the person you love. It's not healthy to stay in silence to ignore a fight and go a day or two without talking to one another. Be forgiving and be willing to ask for forgiveness as well.
10. BE YOURSELF
In any relationship it's important to be yourself. Be your cute, funny, dorky self! DON'T pretend to be something you are not. Someone will fall head over heels for all that you are and all you are set out to be and when that time comes it will be the most beautiful thing!
There is so much advice you can receive but it's what you do with it that matters. You are in charge of your life, what you do and who you let in is all under your control.
Always remember to love yourself!
You Are Be-you-tiful