Nobody said this part of life would be easy. Finding someone you thought you really liked and then it ending. But in reality, it never really ended because he keeps coming back. You’re not really sure how it happens but you catch yourself texting him at 12:30 on a Friday night. He’s an ex for a reason but you seem to ignore that reason when it comes down to it.

You see happy couples everywhere you go and you think about him and what y’all had. I am here to tell you that it is one of the worst things you can do. Reminiscing on the good times you shared with him. It will only make things worse but you do it anyway. He affects the relationships you want to build with other guys. You start to like a certain guy then he hits you with a snap or a text. You’re just like “ugh why are you the way you are? I hate you but yet I don’t.” He knows all the right things say and do to get back in. Its comfortable for you. You don't have to start over with someone new, He already knows everything about you. At one point in time you probably would label him as your "best friend."

This part sucks. He comes back but for a little while, then he will disappear. You'll see him favorite a girls selfie on twitter or even worse a snapchat of them together. You then get angry, text him, he'll say he's sorry and you forgive him. Back to square one and next thing you know you are hanging out with him. You are not alone in this type of situation. Every girl; has had that one guy who keep showing up, even me. It’s hard and you just want him to go away but then you don’t. I’m here to tell you that time is your medicine. Time will literally heal all wounds. You can’t just expect him to disappear overnight, it’s going to take time.

Time is key when it comes to boys who keep coming back. Another thing that you need to do is stop replying, stop snapping, stop tweeting. Stop any form of contact with him. Un-add, unfollow or block even. It’s just better for you.Its better when you cant see what he's doing and especially who he's with.You can tell him this but he will tell you that you're crazy or he will want to try to make things work. Stand your ground, remember y'all broke up for a reason. If any form of doubt is in your mind about getting back together with him, then get out. You will only make yourself better and that’s what we want. It’s going to be hard, trust me it’s very hard.

But in the end, you’ll come out on top. When he's gone, you will feel like a brick was lifted off your shoulders. Just remember, it's up to you if you want him gone or to keep having coming back. It’s up to you, not him.