Life is a journey, not a to-do list.
Life is an amazing thing. We get one shot at it and strive to make the most of it. We work, sacrifice, and plan in an effort to live the life we always dreamed of. However, we tend to get discouraged when our lives don't follow the exact timeline we mentally created for ourselves.
Maybe you are single and feel left behind when all of your close friends are getting engaged, married, or starting a family. Maybe you are working but not living your passion because you haven't yet landed your dream job.
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You stand there silently asking yourself what is wrong with me? I am I not good enough, qualified enough, or attractive enough? As reality and despair starts to set in that you aren't in the place you necessarily want to be. You find yourself dwelling on all of your negatives in life or accomplishments you didn't reach, instead of looking at all great things you have surrounding you.
Whatever the scenario is, I'm here to tell you that you are more than enough and everything is and will be okay. Your time is coming, but it just isn't your time yet.
It's normal to set goals and it's great to work towards them but not all
things in your life can be checked off the way you wish they could.We can't rush the process or it won't be legit. It won't be sincere and it won't feel right. Life is not a To-Do List and if you live life thinking things are just
supposed to fall in that order, you may be setting yourself up for
disappointment. Remember that you have a plan but God has a better one.
Stepping Stones
I can remember being in college and feeling somewhat left out when my friends were going shopping for furniture for their new homes, celebrating their engagements (especially when I had been with my boyfriend longer than they've known each other), throwing the cutest baby showers, and traveling. At the time, I was a college student taking multiple hours in an effort to graduate early and also still living with my parents. People would make fun of me for not having a social life and not moving out. My peers were living it up and I was studying my life away and still had a curfew. As much as I wanted to be planning a wedding, decorating a house, or traveling across the country, I learned to accept that it was not yet time for that. At that time I needed to do exactly what I was doing because I was paving my way for my future which included all of those wonderful things. I likely wouldn't have the house, the husband, the experiences or the connections that I have now if I would have dropped everything to live another person's version of the perfect life.
Reality Over Rushed Role Play
I've watched women walk down the aisle with men they don't love, simply because they didn't want to be the last family member or friend to get hitched. I've seen girls date guys they had nothing in common with just to show they aren't single, while others have babies for people they barely know because everyone else has a family. What sense does it make to put on a show? We are all living on different timelines. Ever thought that your dream will become a reality whenever the time is right and you are truly ready? Maybe the wedding and children haven't come because the man that will be a wonderful spouse and an amazing father hasn't crossed your path yet. If it isn't real, you shouldn't want it or fake it.
Stop Comparing and Competing
When you live in competition with others, you will lose every single time. What's for the next person may not be for you. No matter how badly you want it or feel you should have what others have, chances are that it won't be as fulfilling as what is rightfully for you.
It May Not Be For You
Sometimes your time isn't coming for a particular goal or aspiration. It simply may not in our cards. It doesn't mean you've failed or haven't lived a quality life, and it also doesn't mean you aren't worthy. It just means that you didn't need that one thing to make you whole and there is probably something more beneficial to your life coming if you keep that door closed. We don't always know or understand why, but it's important to trust that it is done in your favor.
Live and enjoy one day at a time while trusting in God's Plan. You never know what tomorrow, next week, or even the next hour will bring. Have faith and stay confident. Your time is coming.
