For various reasons and under particular circumstances, individuals find themselves reliant on others for their strength and happiness. Although sometimes this reliance is inadvertent or subconscious, it is usually noticeable. They constantly seek affirmation from the people around them, they become dependent on the presence of others, and they never truly feel content on the inside.
I believe it is crucial for all of us to become reliant on no one other than ourselves. Don't get me wrong, we're all going to go through some really tough stuff, some of us more than others. Of course, there will be times when we need the support of our parents, friends, and other family members. With that being said, I believe inner independence is one of the most important, attractive, and beneficial characteristics one can possess in his or her lifetime.
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The day I realized I was my own hero was just about six months ago. After losing someone who inspired me, I had to choose between dwelling on the situation or moving on and reflecting on why it happened. I had to ask myself, "What can I learn from this situation?" So, I let myself cry. And then, because I had to, I put on my "big girl pants," wiped away the tears, and said,"It is going to be okay."
Ever since then, I have done immense amounts of soul searching and self-reflecting. I have learned that happiness is a mindset, and it is a privilege. We only get one life and, if we're lucky, we actually end up living that life the way we should. I know it can be tough. Trust me, I know. But I am a strong believer in living and learning. If you mess up, so what? If you get your heartbroken, yeah it sucks, but it's all part of the plan and I can promise you time heals everything.
No one, and I mean no one, is going to hand you success or happiness on a silver platter. You have to work for it, and you have to want it.
It is important to be okay with being alone. It is important to do things for yourself. It is important to inspire yourself before you begin to inspire others. It is important to be strong and happy on your own, all by yourself.
At some pont, we all have to take a step back and ask ourselves, "Is this how I want to live my life?"
If your answer is no, it is never too late to become your own strong, happy, and independent hero.
