It seems as if every girl you know has a man or the man that they've always wanted. It's all good though cause you'll get yours, right? If not then you'll settle for any man that graces your presence, huh?

What if he isn't who you perceived him to be? What if his circumstances didn't match yours? Would you try to make him into the person you would want him to be? I'll tell you this woman to woman or guy to woman:

I WILL NOT

In this day in age, women have been subjected to believe that they have to build a man with certain standards in order to equivalent the lifestyles that male figures in their lives have created for them. It's all good until you can't get the man that you think you want and he ends up being totally other than what you perceived him to be.

So my question is to you: Would you build a man?

Would you design a man in your head to fit the quota of your dad, uncle or any man that you idolize?

Here are my reasons as to why I would not build a man:

1. He's not my dad

He's not my father and he will never be. So making standards as though he would be like your father is dead. I would prefer for my potential man to not be like my father. He shouldn't have to feel as though HE HAS to take CARE of me. Leave that for my father to do.

2. He's not my bank

I make my own money, and I like to buy things for myself. Meaning there's no strings attached. I don't mind going half & half on things but I prefer to pay for my own. I wouldn't want a man to feel like that he HAS to pay because we are in a relationship or together.

3. Building a Man is commercial

I mean, c'mon this is not Build-A-Bear workshop. My ideal man doesn't come in a package, he comes with a package. He won't be what I want, he may be just what I need. It's so cliche build a man to what you want.

4. Men aren't perfect

I think as women we forget that men are people just like we are. We forget that they go through things just as well as we do. WE ALL AREN'T PERFECT.

So to conclude, I won't build a man or I'm not worried about what man God will soon send me. I know my potential guy isn't perfect, he wasn't put on this earth to take care of me but to love and cherish me and he will be just what I need.