Big little reveal is quickly approaching as you can tell by the immense amount of sorority girls walking through Michael’s buying loads of glitter, all in preparation for a day comparable to Christmas morning. Getting a big is a pivotal moment in any sorority girl’s college experience, it is what we look forward to as new members and how we find our family within the house. When the glitter fades and the newness of revel wears off I am here to say your big does not have to be your very best friend.

There is a lot of pressure on new members to search for an older girl that they completely click with. You hear everyone talk about how there big is there soulmate, other half, two peas in a pod, but not everyone is able to find that. Your big is there to be your mentor, a role model, an older girl within the house to look up to, and ask questions of. Your big can be someone who takes you to your first wine Wednesday and introduces you to new people, or the one who helps you plan what to wear to a date party and fills you in about your Sorority secrets. She doesn’t have to be the one you turn to with every little problem or the one you go to every function with. Popular to contrary belief, sometimes you and your big just aren’t that close. There are other girls within the house and your pledge class that you will become best friends with and you can find an older girl who you will learn things from. Your big will always hold a special place in your heart and you’ll always look up to her but don’t feel bad about not being as close as other big and little duos you see on Instagram and hear about at chapter. Your big picked you, spent hours crafting for you, and saw something special in you enough to pick you as a little so of course you will always respect and admire this person. Just because your big has other friends in the house or has more similar interests with girls that aren’t you this doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you.

On the other hand if you do find a little or big that is basically a better version than yourself then that’s great! Embrace it and post insta after insta with the most cliché captions and make sure you let everyone know you have the best big ever. Getting a big really can turn your entire Sorority experience around and when you get a big you always have someone to depend on and talk to.

So to all the new members out there patiently and anxiously waiting for big little reveal, stay excited. Get ready for to be spoiled with tons of gifts and more letters than you even know what to do with. Don’t be discourage if you and your big don’t turn out to be best friends because that’s completely okay and you will still find your lifelong friends. Becoming a little doesn’t have to be an invitation to automatically be in your big’s wedding. Your bridesmaids will come. Happy reveal!