You Don't Have To Have It All Figured Out: You're Still Young | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Siblings

You Don't Have To Have It All Figured Out, You're Still Young

Stop stressing; it will all work out.

490
You Don't Have To Have It All Figured Out, You're Still Young

I think being in your twenties can be such a weird time. Some people are getting engaged, married and/or having kids. Other people are stressing over classes and passing exams. Some people may be going out every night to the bars.

There's often this misconception that you have to have your life figured out while you're still young.

In college, everywhere we turn, we are bombarded by questions. What's your major? What are you going to do with your degree? Are you going to grad school after undergrad? What career do you want to have? Will that support you? Do you want to be married? Do you want to have kids?

Chances are you are just trying to take things day by day. Not having everything figured out when you are young is OK. Why is it OK? College is all about finding who you are. College is a time of a lot of change and growth. How would someone know exactly what they want to do 5-10 years from now when they are still trying to understand themselves? You can figure out your likes and dislike. What are your passions? Who do you want to be? What goals do you want to meet? All of these things take time. All this does not happen overnight.

"There is no designated time for anything in your life. You don't have to have your first kiss at any certain time, you don't have to get married in your 20's and you don't have to do anything just because other people think it's best. In fact, you will be much better off if you just do what your heart says. The day you stop caring what other people think is the day their opinions don't mean anything, because you're not there to give them weight." — Brianna Wiest, "10 Things I Wish I Could Have Told Myself 5 Years Ago"

"You don't have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they perceive as your success. You don't have to explain what you plan to do with your life. You don't have to justify your education by demonstrating its financial rewards. You don't have to maintain an impeccable credit score. Anyone who expects you to do any of those things has no sense of history or economics or science or the arts.You have to pay your electric bill. You have to be kind. You have to give it all you got. You have to find people who love you truly and love them back with the same truth. But that's all." ― Cheryl Strayed, "Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar"

If I have learned anything since college, it is that it is OK for things not to go as planned. It's OK to change your plans. It's OK to make mistakes. It's OK to be uncertain. I've learned to enjoy every moment without adding unnecessary stress, pressure, and expectations.

It's OK to not have everything in your life figured out.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Featured

15 Mind-Bending Riddles

Hopefully they will make you laugh.

189448
 Ilistrated image of the planet and images of questions
StableDiffusion

I've been super busy lately with school work, studying, etc. Besides the fact that I do nothing but AP chemistry and AP economics, I constantly think of stupid questions that are almost impossible to answer. So, maybe you could answer them for me, and if not then we can both wonder what the answers to these 15 questions could be.

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

Most Epic Aurora Borealis Photos: October 2024

As if May wasn't enough, a truly spectacular Northern Lights show lit up the sky on Oct. 10, 2024

14439
stunning aurora borealis display over a forest of trees and lake
StableDiffusion

From sea to shining sea, the United States was uniquely positioned for an incredible Aurora Borealis display on Thursday, Oct. 10, 2024, going into Friday, Oct. 11.

It was the second time this year after an historic geomagnetic storm in May 2024. Those Northern Lights were visible in Europe and North America, just like this latest rendition.

Keep Reading...Show less
 silhouette of a woman on the beach at sunrise
StableDiffusion

Content warning: This article contains descriptions of suicide/suicidal thoughts.

When you are feeling down, please know that there are many reasons to keep living.

Keep Reading...Show less
Relationships

Power of Love Letters

I don't think I say it enough...

457486
Illistrated image of a letter with 2 red hearts
StableDiffusion

To My Loving Boyfriend,

  • Thank you for all that you do for me
  • Thank you for working through disagreements with me
  • Thank you for always supporting me
  • I appreciate you more than words can express
  • You have helped me grow and become a better person
  • I can't wait to see where life takes us next
  • I promise to cherish every moment with you
  • Thank you for being my best friend and confidante
  • I love you and everything you do

To start off, here's something I don't say nearly enough: thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You do so much for me that I can't even put into words how much I appreciate everything you do - and have done - for me over the course of our relationship so far. While every couple has their fair share of tiffs and disagreements, thank you for getting through all of them with me and making us a better couple at the other end. With any argument, we don't just throw in the towel and say we're done, but we work towards a solution that puts us in a greater place each day. Thank you for always working with me and never giving up on us.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

11 Signs You Grew Up In Hauppauge, NY

Because no one ever really leaves.

26431
Map of Hauppauge, New York
Google

Ah, yes, good old Hauppauge. We are that town in the dead center of Long Island that barely anyone knows how to pronounce unless they're from the town itself or live in a nearby area. Hauppauge is home to people of all kinds. We always have new families joining the community but honestly, the majority of the town is filled with people who never leave (high school alumni) and elders who have raised their kids here. Around the town, there are some just some landmarks and places that only the people of Hauppauge will ever understand the importance or even the annoyance of.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments