I cannot stand those posts you see floating around the internet with sayings like, “real women have curves,” "who wants a woman with the body of a boy," or “skinny is beautiful.” I don't care if it's just a post, because it will never lead to just an eating disorder, or just crying herself to sleep. The complications are more than just anything. I’m going to tell you the truth right now amongst all the opinions and posts, and that is the fact that no one should make you believe a certain body type, size or shape is sexy.

You know what is sexy? Your mind, along with loving and taking care of your body.

I worked hard to create a healthier, happier lifestyle for my mind and body, and you know what happened when I started my journey? I went down two bra sizes. So, are you going to tell me I’m not “sexy” because I decided to take care of myself by eating better and exercising? Are you going to say I'm not "sexy" based off of the size of my chest, honestly, when it took all of me to get myself to this proud point? How about the other beautiful women out there; are you going to tell me “she’s too thin, she needs a burger,” when she’s working out an hour a day and eating 2,000 calories filled with protein? Are you going to tell me “she’s too curvy, too much thigh showing,” when genetics passed her the genes of beautiful hips that are her's to embrace? You don’t know me, you don’t know her, and you don’t know the next girl or woman you are anonymously, cruelly, maybe even—benefit of the doubt—unintentionally, criticizing. We weren't put on this earth to be clones.

Ladies, embrace your body. That is your home, and no one, and I mean no one,can take that from you. Don't let them try to cause damage. Cherish it, care for it, defend it. Every woman is built wonderfully different on the outside, but we all deserve to be built strong on the inside, and we can help each other with that. Take into consideration that while you dig at someone's physical appearance, you are leaving a deep hole within. You are carving into their thoughts, hammering their ability to love themselves too far into the ground.

I want to fill those holes. I’m telling you that you are beautiful—mind and body deep, you are sexy for loving yourself, and you are so damn strong for loving yourself in a world of comparisons and unpopular opinions. Size is not a definition of sexiness, beauty, happiness, or personality. If you want a size to define you, let it be your heart. I hope it stays big and whole. I hope it doesn’t crumble when the world tries to squeeze it out of you. No one knows your struggles the way you do, no one knows what you've been through and what you've overcome, so do not let just someone determine who you are.

And to those of you that share these posts and such a harsh, biased mentality, I think I do know a little about you; I think you lack self love of your own and respect for yourself. But I'm not so sure you know such broadcasting causes problems such as eating disorders and pain within others. I unfollow people like you, and sure you could attack those of us by telling us to do just that—unfollow, but can I just ask what you’re getting out of it? Some of us learn to ignore the posts, but some of us struggle, and that doesn’t make us insecure or weak, it makes us human. By all means, enjoy the physical appearance that you want for yourself or future partner, but sharing that post that shames one body over another is not going to make that fantasy person come to you. It isn’t going to give the curves you want a beautiful personality to go with them. It isn’t going to give you the skinny girl you crave with a kind heart. It will never make your appearance inside or out any more attractive by putting others down, it actually works the other way around.

So, I’m going to post my article link. You can share, and so can I. And I hope positive posts like this swarm the internet and throw the negativity into cyber trash.

The internet can’t tell you who you are, she can’t tell you who you are, he can’t, and they can’t. But, you can.

And we are all more than the surface. Take care of you.