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You Must Rely On Yourself In Order To Survive

People are not always there for you with good intentions

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You Must Rely On Yourself In Order To Survive
Whitney A. Whitaker

These days, it is easy to be pushed aside by the ones we love and the ones we thought loved us. It is simple, really. How does one person remain a constant in everyone's lives all at once? You don't. Step back for a second... Think about how hard it is to make everyone happy. Think about how easy it is to make everyone mad. Which is better for you in the long run? Being happy or everyone else being happy? It's about time you realize that not everyone will always be there for you. Not your family. Not your best friend. Not even the person you're in a relationship with.

People are constantly removing each other from their lives for small reasons. An ex was involved with them, they weren't answering texts, they were sick, etc. The funny thing is we expect these people to be there for us and to help us get through all of our hard times. We don't think our friends will leave us when we're in pain, when we get married, or even when we have children, but that's just how life works out.

For example, a friend from middle school once removed me from her life because I was "too dramatic". However, during this time I was going through a very toxic patch in my life with a very toxic man. If she could see me now after everything that relationship was, I have no doubt she would feel awful. She was toxic to me as well, but she didn't see it that way.

Another friend simply stopped wanting to have anything to do with me because I lost someone I cared about. After that, apparently I was "too mopey" and "not as fun anymore". It amazes me how people show their true colors.

I have recently been separated from the ones I love because of a few weeks of illness. Naturally, my body could not help being sick and I tried everything I could to make sure I was still getting up and heading to class, but something was missing. I have spent the last few weekends entirely separate from them and it has been unbearable. My only company has been my boyfriend and best friend, but even they cannot make up for certain people. I have missed so much because of my fever and the short brush with the flu I had, but through it all I have been fighting to get back to the ones I love. That's just the kind of person I am; nothing will separate me from the one person who makes me feel like I'm alive.

So what do we do when we are kept from the ones we love? We fight. There is never an obstacle so big that you cannot get back to the one you love. If that person chooses to remove you from their life, then so be it. You cannot make yourself available for someone who would never do the same for you. Those people are toxic. We remove ourselves from them no matter what the pain is like. You cannot count on them.

You must rely on yourself to survive.

There has never been a truer statement.

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