It may be hard to admit but most girls would love a fairytale story. The story where a nice guy comes to sweep you off your feet, spoils you, your family falls in love with him, etc. and before you know it he asks you to marry him. We all watch the Nicholas Spark movies and hope that one day we too will have a story like theirs. Sadly this is most likely never the case and in fact. we settle for the guys who do quite the opposite.

For those of us who are in high school or college, we all know what a boy is and how they act. Let’s start with the way they dress. They probably have a more expensive wardrobe than most girls you know and take more time to get ready. They have a wide selection of pastel shorts, polo t-shirts, Sperry boat shoes, and this ridiculous looking gelled back hairstyle. To my lady friends, this is what most of us define as a typical boy looking for some fun. Sure he could wear none of these things, but let’s be honest, most of them love to dress like a southern sailor. If it's not the "north shore prep look", it’s the sports jersey, bucket hat type, who probably hasn’t washed that jersey once in his life.

Next, comes the image. Not only do they have to try and get girls and be the coolest guy in town, they have to be the coolest to even their guy friends. They have to have the nicest shoes, the nicest car, the nicest apartment/location, etc. In order to be the best you have to have the best image, and once you have that image, you can start moving in on the ladies.

When it comes to these boys, respect for women is completely out the door. They fish out the sexiest girls in a group or at a party and start their game. They say a few words, offer you a drink, and before you know it, you’re on your way home with them. They compliment you and maybe you even exchange numbers. You wake up Sunday and you don’t hear a word from then until Friday night rolls around and it's late at night; what do you know the boy is drunk and wants someone to play with. You’re offended, which you should be because he has clearly labeled you as his "booty call". You ignore it, but he continues to text you, and before you know it you give in because he seems really sweet, and you think why not give him a second chance? But, before you know it, Monday rolls around and the texts stop like you don’t even know each other.

You see him in class or on campus and he looks at you but doesn’t say hi. You start to think and think and overthink what you did wrong or maybe if you scared him off. But you didn’t scare him off. He got what he wanted and moved on. He told you what you wanted to hear and had a story to tell his friends, what more did he want? You move on, but now you have another boy to add to your list of parties to avoid because of him. Isn't it wonderful the way these things work out?

My dear ladies do not feel alone because we have all been treated this way in one way or another. Embrace the inner childishness of these boys and learn from their mistakes. Lesson learned ladies if you’ve ever felt this way or have dealt with a guy like this, it is simple and easy to say you have been messed with by a fuck boy.