To The Girl Who Hasn't Found The One Yet,

So, you haven't found the one yet and that's OK.

Imagine this; you're curled up under a blanket on your bed or couch right now, scrolling through social media on your phone.

Hell, you've already been through all of your social media already so now you're aimlessly scrolling through the featured news stories on Snapchat or exploring the Trending section on Twitter. Honestly, you're just doing anything to distract yourself from the fact that he hasn't texted you back yet. You two went on a date the previous night and you never heard back from him afterwards, asking if you got home okay or saying he had a great time and you guys should do it again sometime.

Now here you sit, trying to avoid thinking about all of the things you possibly did wrong to make him ghost on you. Maybe you should text him again and ask what you did wrong, right? No, that would be silly. Maybe he's busy at work or has class, you shouldn't double text him. In an attempt to avoid double texting, you distract yourself by running errands and blasting John Mayer in your car because you're an independent woman who has to take care of herself and doesn't have time for a man.

Girl, I promise that every single one of us has been there at least once. It's human nature to stress over things like this.

We as humans have the need to be liked and when we're rejected, it shuts us down. Just because one person has rejected us does not mean the rest of the world has. That's the first thing you have to realize. You've been ghosted on after a date and now you're convinced that there is something wrong with you and you will never find "The One". It's not as black and white as that. First of all, do you think that out of the seven billion people in the world, your future husband happens to be some guy who lives in a twenty mile radius from you and doesn't even have the decency to text you and ask if you got home okay? Please, do not lower your standards to that.

The second thing you need to realize is that you are not unlovable. So do yourself a favor and turn that John Mayer off, no matter how much we love his music. I know you don't want to hear it because everyone has probably said it a million times, but your person is out there. It might take a while to find this person, but when you do, all of the crappy dates and heartbreaks will be worth it. Do not go searching for this person. Have you ever heard the phrase, "A watched pot never boils"? If you're actively searching to find "The One", do you really think they are just going to appear out of the blue, flowers in hand and a ring in the other? If they do, run because they're a serial killer. Your person is going to show up at a time in your life when you are least expecting it and it is going to catch you completely off guard.

So until your person shows up in your life and makes everything worthwhile, it is time to focus on yourself. Ugh, so cliche, I know. But this is the truth; spend your time bettering yourself and working to build yourself a happier future. Do not waste your time wondering why some frat boy ghosted on you after one date. He just wasn't your person for a reason, accept it and move on. Spend your time loving yourself.