Second Chances
I use to never believe in second chances. That people don't change, which would mean that they would repeat their actions.
As of recent discoveries and personal experiences I have come to the conclusion that people do change. We grow and we become better versions of the people we were just a couple months ago.
We learn from our mistakes and we take those bags and carry on. I’ve learned that its okay to give second chances to people, to give them the benefit of the doubt because on the off chance they prove you right, you now have a stronger relationship.
But there's a difference between second chances and third, fourth, and fifth chances. If someone hurt you once, odds are is that they are going to do it again. I’ve learned that some people are worth the mess they put you through.
I am all about forgiveness and looking for any little bit of good that is left in people, but there comes a point where you need to understand how much of an impact that has on your life when you are spending time digging for something that might not be there. It holds you back.
Personally, I have been in so many situations in which I have given people many chances, only to be disappointed later. Basically, it was a free pass to walk all over me as many times as they pleased. Because I was too embarrassed to speak up or even stand up for myself. At a certain point, it all became too much for me.
Now I apply the two strikes you're out rule to my life. If you don't do this, people will be taking advantage of how nice you are left and right. This doesn't mean you're selfish or mean, it just means you know how much you're worth and what you truly deserve. There is absolutely nothing wrong with self-love.
I was so adamant on the idea of never giving anyone a second chance until life showed me that when I needed a second chance the most, it was given to me. It doesn't take more than two tries to fix a situation.
People who have the best intentions in mind for you will never need more than a second chance.
So give people second chances, love on others hard, and always have the best intentions in mind, but always remember that not everyone will have the same heart that you do. Forgive but never forget.
I now believe in second chances because it truly shows you the difference between who will value you versus people who will never think of you the way you think of them.
