At the beginning of a breakup, your heart can be super impulsive and cause you to do foolish things. Drunken texts and social media flaunting might be a few mistakes you can recall making. However, once that stage comes to an end, your brain takes over and you start considering the possibilities you were too blind to see in the first place, such as: I guess he wasn’t the person I thought he was. I learned from this relationship and can now love someone so much better than I did before. I trust that the right somebody will find me at the right time.

Whether you were with someone for a few months or a few years, there was something about them that made you fell head over heels. It could’ve been his exceptional taste in movies, his undeniable charm in a crowd of people or even his general innocence. Those are the traits that you miss the most, yet you probably never talk to them anymore, so who even knows if they’re still there? For all you know, they could be the devil in disguise and have a mouth that spews the most venomous words. As time goes on and we’re surrounded by new faces and experiences, alteration is expected, if not inevitable. If they don’t care enough to ask how you’re doing every so often, chances are, they’re not the same person you once knew. And that’s OK.

Maybe their love wasn’t as strong. Maybe they’ve had enough. Or maybe their ambitions just weren’t on the same level right then. Humans change and grow overtime; it’s a predestined process that can’t be fought. Regardless, it’s crazy to think that the person who once held the sun, moon and stars in your eyes isn’t actually that same person anymore. But what most people don’t realize is that it’s for the best, because even if you can’t see it, you are evolving, too. And if you and that person are genuinely meant to be, who knows, you could find your way back together in a coffee shop seven years from now. Or maybe you’ll just meet someone else who’s ten times better.

If you ever find yourself reminiscing about the past, just remember, you certainly don’t love him anymore. In fact, you don't even know him anymore. How lucky you are to have loved someone at that time in their life when their soul was so beautiful and pure, but people change, and that person is nothing more than a stranger to you now. It's time to go and find that new somebody who counterparts your values and who ultimately grows the same direction you do. You'll be happy you did.