Breaking up is hard to do, especially when you had an entire future planned out together. For a long time afterward, it is going to sting. Actually, it’s going to hurt like hell, and I, for one, am breaking.

I feel guilty, but what could I do? The whole time that we were together, I really did what I could to try to help him and make him a better person and to support him. I guess it wasn’t good enough. You can’t help somebody that doesn’t want to be helped.

I loved him so much, and I know at one point he loved me too. I wanted nothing more than for this to work out. He even bought me an engagement ring, and I thought that my search in life for my soulmate was finally over, but honey, even a diamond on that pretty little finger doesn’t guarantee that he will stay.

This was not just a normal breakup. We had a future. We had everything planned, and we were really ready to get up and leave and start the rest of our lives together, but instead, I’m the one that got left.

It hurt because he was like a drug to me. I craved him, and I went through withdrawals. For him, I wasn’t his drug. Something else was, and those drugs won this battle. I was no match for the things that he was doing behind my back. I lost sight of who he was.

I wanted this to work. I wanted to try harder. I wanted to fight back, but the second he walked out of that front door, my best friend said to me, “Aren’t you going to stop him?” I said nothing more than, “Just let him go…” and I closed the door behind him and didn’t even look back. That is when you know that I’ve had enough. I never give up on anybody. Never, no matter how dirty they do me, but I just could not be with him anymore.

I wish him nothing but the best, although his life is essentially ruined. I miss him every day, but then I think of him and remember what he put me through. I will never hate him for that, though. I’ve heard he’s doing better –he’s got a future all planned out with another woman, and a baby on the way.

Sometimes I have to sit back and remind myself what to do in case I think of him. It makes it all easier. So, in case you think of him, tell yourself that he’s happy now, and that is all you've ever wanted for him. No matter how much your heart feels empty from not being the one to make him smile, at least he’s okay.

In case you think of him, listen to that one song that the two of you used to love to jam out to –your song, but not to make you upset, but just to sing it as loud as you can and remember the good times you had with him.

You can't let the happy times make you sad. In case you think of him, tell yourself that he’s in love again, and let yourself find someone new too. In case you think of him, remember that you tried your best, and there is nothing wrong with you. You just can't save everyone, no matter how much you want to.