This one is for the party girls, the life of the party girls, the always have a boyfriend girls, the girls who need a man to feel worthy, and the girls that just don't need anyone.
There is nothing wrong with being who you are. If you are one of those girls, own who you are. I am one of those girls, I am more than one of those girls, I am multiple girls addressed above. There is once again nothing wrong with being who you are, but I have learned there is something wrong with feeling unworthy of God's love and allowing that girl that you are to rule your life and not make you reach out for God's grace.
I am outgoing, I love to go out with my friends, I love good beer and even better wine, I like cute boys , I like to look at cute boys, I like the attention I may get from a cute boy, I like that I have a ton of friends, and that I can talk to anyone and everyone. But for the longest time I thought that I could not have these qualities and be loved by Jesus. I felt unworthy, I felt as though when I was not getting attention from a cute boy, or when I was not out in the neon lights with liquid encouragement, then I was lonely and not good enough. That's what the problem was. That is where I began to fall into the enemies lies of not being good enough or worth the love the Father offers. I saw the girls that went to church, they did not party, they did not seem to like to drink as much as I did, or talk to a bunch of boys. They seemed so sure about the love they received from Jesus and it was written all over their faces, but I did not feel that way. Not even in the slightest.
I have come to realize that you, me, we are all more than good enough for God's love. You know why? When we were all still sinners, God sent His one and only Son to die for our sins (Romans 5:8). God did not send His one and only Son to die for our sins so that we had to change who we were in order to receive his love. He did not send His one and only Son to die for our sins so that we have to be perfect. He sent His one and only Son to die for our sins so that we would know how much, grace, compassion, and love he has for the party girls, the have it all together girls, the lost girls, the "unworthy" girls, the independent girls, the need a man girls, and any other girl you say you are. We are not called to change who we are, we are called to be transformed. And transformation takes place in your heart and your mind, and you will realize when you are transformed that these things that may define you right now, are truly not real needs for you anymore. You don't desire to party anymore, you don't desire just a boyfriend, you don't need attention from boys because you got the attention from the King, and you may be independent but still need God.
There is nothing wrong with being who you are, because who you are is worthy of God's love. If the whole transformation thing was confusing and you don't get it and that kind of scared you, then start by recognizing that God's love IS for you, even if you don't feel like it is. He is full of so much grace, love, and compassion that it can take your heart and fill it with more than any of those earthly things have the ability to do if you just recognize that you can have it too. God's love isn't just for those girls you see at church who seem to have it all together because they don't, who have never been downtown because I am sure they have thought about it, or who have never kissed a boy but have really wanted to. Those girls have there own struggles and ways of feeling unworthy as well. We are all so worth being loved, and we are all good enough for the love the Father offers us every single day.
You are great no matter what kind of girl you think you are, and the Father thinks you're the coolest, funniest, prettiest, treasured, adored, thing He has, and is so glad He gets to love you.