Remember in Mean Girls when they were all in that school meeting in the gym and the teacher goes..."Raise your hand if you've ever felt personally victimized by Regina George"? Well, raise your hand if you've ever felt victimized by another person because of your body size (small or large). Are you raising your hand? I'm sure you are.
In today's day and age, feeling comfortable in your own skin is very difficult. Mainstream society is always pushing new trends that make other girls (or guys) hate each other. There is so much hatred, and it honestly makes me sick...especially when I see other people pointing out something that could be beyond that other persons realm of control. One example of this being, weight. Now I know you bigger girls (or guys) get a lot of hate too..but to just blatantly call someone "anorexic" or a "twig" just because they are smaller than you, is so rude! A mental illness shouldn't be deemed an insult and to use it as one is just awful.
Don't get me wrong,curves are so beautiful. Yet, so is my petite figure. I work very hard to keep myself in the shape I am, I don't need you trying to tear me down for it. No, this doesn't make me insecure because frankly I know I look good...so what? That doesn't make me any less of a person, just like YOUR size doesn't make you any less of a person. From time to time I look at myself and think "ugh I wish I had bigger thighs" but that doesn't control the way I think about myself completely. My boyfriend loves me the way I am, and so do I (because I don't need another persons validation).
Another thing that makes me see red is when people say "real women have curves". Like, I'm pretty sure having a Uterus makes you a real women, but go ahead please tell me more about how my clothing size makes me less of a women. Just stop trying to make others feel like shit because you may feel insecure about yourself. Its not cute, or funny. It makes you look so ugly...and no I'm not talking about your looks. Men, I'm talking to you too. This issue isn't just gender specific.
If you've ever been made fun of because of anything you know how much it hurts...even if you try to shake it off. Harsh words get under your skin and fester into insecurities...so just don't say them. Its hard enough to be a person in today's society because of made up "beauty standards" (this word makes me ill)...you don't need to add onto those issues. Please, just be kind and loving. It isn't very hard to do!