Recently, Victoria Beckham published a letter to her younger self. After reading it, I realized that young people do go through and feel a lot of things that adults often times don't realize. So in the spirit of opening the eyes of those who do not know, here it is...a letter to my 18-year-old self.
Dear 18-year old Self,
Hey girl. This is you....from the future. 6 years into the future to be exact. I'm writing to you because at 18 years old I know that you're going through a lot. I'm writing to you to let you know that although your life didn't go as you planned, it's going pretty damn well. It isn't perfect, but what is? You're a little awkward, but confident. You haven't broken 100 pounds yet but don't you worry, you won't be a stick forever! You're favorite thing to say is "I'm really going to be somebody", you are sunshine. Just not the way you always thought....let me explain.
I know you're constantly bumping heads with dad. It's not easy, it's not fun. All i'll say is...it gets better. Believe it or not you guys actually end up getting along (most of the time). Daniel becomes your best friend and partner in crime, he's too young to realize it now. Let him be your kid brother, don't beat on him too much. He'll be bigger than you and then you'll be wishing you hadn't. Mom is mom. Supportive, funny, caring, and your best friend. You lucked out with her. Elizabeth is the best friend(non-family) that you'll ever have. She's like your sister. Remember that.
At the moment, I know you love singing, dancing, theater. You're thinking that by 25 you'll be a famous Broadway star. I hate to tell you, but you are about to let go of a lifelong passion. The stage. Singing. Theater. Believe me, I know how much you love being up on stage, it's home. Sadly, some people will tell you that it's an impractical career and you need a backup because *insert obscene statistic here* make it to Broadway. It will crush you and make you cry. Why? Because in 6 years you will see former classmates of yours in touring companies, on Broadway, or on TV. You will have this thought..."I was really going to be somebody." For all the times you practiced Oscar, Emmy, and Tony winning speeches in the mirror, I'm sorry darling, you don't make it. There are times that you realize it'll be OK, and maybe there are other plans that the universe has for you. Other days, you'll feel awful, like you gave up a part of you, the part that made you alive. Sorry baby, you did. Some days you don't care because of life, although different than you thought, is amazing. Other days, you scroll through the social media pages of these people and you can feel your heart break inside because...that should've been you. But you chose a different path. Don't be sad, I try not to be. The universe is a funny thing.
Currently, you decided not to attend college out of state, despite mommy and pa putting a deposit down and you receiving a scholarship for academics. I know people gave you a lot of crap about it, but it's OK. They're telling you it's because you wanted to stay home with your boyfriend, which isn't true. You're just not ready, and that's OK too. Whether they like to admit it or not, sometimes the parents like to keep a tight leash on you, and you know you better than anyone, should you go away to school....you'd lose it. Out of control and like a dog chasing a car labeled freedom. You wouldn't know what to do if you actually got it. Don't worry though, in a year you'll go to school for medical assisting, discover it's a passion, and end up going to school to be an LPN. I'm proud of you. So is everyone else. Especially your fiance, but we'll get to him in a moment.
Your current boyfriend. Oh yes him. He isn't a bad person, he's just immature and a little lost. I won't delve too much into him because shortly you will see that he isn't the person for you. Nor is the guy you're with after him. That one is a little trickier. Though you know him for a brief time, you'll experience something you never have. Don't be afraid, but be cautious. Spoiler alert! You don't end up with him either. You're an emotional person sometimes, although internally, but emotional none the less. It'll be fine! He wasn't bad either, just lost, and you found each other at the wrong time. You know how it goes, it's all about timing. Could've, would've, should've (you'll hear that in the future).
Now, the moment you've been waiting for. Your Fiance. He's an amazing person. Not the person you'd expect to end up with however. He's 22 years older than you, and is your manager at your job at the diner. He's shy, funny, sarcastic and just about everything you want. By now, you'll be with him for 4.5 years. It wasn't easy, mistakes are made, hearts are broken, but you make it. With him, you'll break all your rules and it'll only show you it's the real deal. That man loves you like nobody else, he supports you, and is your biggest fan.
When all your accomplishments happen, I'll tell you now—he's the proudest one. The wedding planning is stressful, but you're trying not to let it get to you...it's not working!
So self, this is goodbye. I wish i had this letter when I was 18. But you have it now. The road you traveled thus far was not the easiest, but you made it. You've come out on the other side a better person and with tons of stories and experience. YOU'RE REALLY GOING TO BE SOMEBODY kid. I promise you that.
Love always,
Your 24-year old Self.