As we get comfortable in the new year (or claim that January is our free trial month and get ready to really try our best in February), most of us are living by the "New year, new me" motto. This drives people to set resolutions that they won't keep up with, and this is something I still can't get over, how ridiculous resolutions are.

That being said, that doesn't mean you can't set goals for yourself. After all, life is nothing if we don't set goals and work to better ourselves. I do have a suggestion for anyone up to a challenge: write love letters to yourself.

You don't need to write on any sort of schedule, or write many. Write on your own schedule, in whatever way comes most easily to you. It's incredibly beneficial.

First, you know yourself better than anyone else. You know what upsets you, what your flaws are, where your insecurities lay. You know what you need to hear more than anyone else, and you may as well give yourself the loving care that you deserve. This is 2019 after all, and we're all working so hard on self care. So give yourself the ultimate form of self care by reassuring yourself that you're doing just fine, or that you will end up being fine.

Second, writing these letters allows you to distance yourself a bit form your issues and insecurities. Through stepping back to analyze your problem, you give yourself the chance to see it through another lens and find viable solutions you hadn't thought of before. At the very least, you get to realize just how small your problem may be in the true scheme of things, and the love that you're giving yourself in these letters can be so reassuring.

Another great benefit is that you're allowing yourself to be creative. Being creative can be so fulfilling, especially since you have something to show for it at the end, whether you decide to show someone else or keep your letters to yourself. The energy you've used has something to show for it, and what you have to show can be used to motivate yourself and generate more love for yourself, which is so valuable.

All in all, there are so many reasons to make the effort to write love letters to yourself this year. All of us are insecure, and we all have problems that we struggle with both internally and externally. A common phrase is "Don't judge someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes," and you've been wearing your shoes your whole life, so you know how to judge yourself and love yourself better than anyone else. You deserve to show yourself the specialized love that only you can truly give yourself.

We're all learning how to better love ourselves in the age of self care. Love yourself as best as you can.