Dear Future Husband,

Sorry I’m not as good of a lyricist as the pop sensation Meghan Trainer… but I’m going to do my best at telling you this story.

At my university I run a journaling based small group. A few weeks ago while talking about prayer requests I noticed a trend in the requests. Many of the girls that I meet with on a weekly basis were worried about relationships.

Now I in no way shape or form am saying that romantic relationships should be at the top of everyone’s to-do list. However I will say as a college female, relationships come up… a lot. Over half of my group of single people have found relationships in the past few months (many starting in the past two months), so saying that college is not a place of relationships would be a lie, because it does happen (and we also talk about it quite a lot, but what can I say, we’re girls, it happens).

All that being said, just because I don’t believe that relationships should be the core of every college student’s life, the interest in a significant other is inevitable, crushes happen, relationships come and go, people change and grow. But as one of my friends said recently, she believes that God wouldn’t give us the desire to get married, or have that committed relationships unless he intends to fulfill that desire. I thought that was a really cool way to look at the future and made what this article is really about mean so much more.

I am one of those crazy hopeless romantics that write letters to my future husband. And last week at my small group my girls all wrote letters to our future husbands with me and it was incredible.

I don’t write letters to my future husband in the hopes that I will one day experience my own romantic comedy experience (but let’s be real that would be pretty cool, take note future husband * wink *). No, I write letters because I believe that those letters are one of the most important acts for my future husband.

Allow me to explain, I don’t want to fall in love more than once. I know that’s what everyone says, but it’s true. I want to get married once, and I want to do it right. I want to be best friends with my future husband, so that no matter what happens we can work through it, become stronger, and love each other even more.

Above all of this, I want God to be the center of our relationship. I want Him to keep us together, I want my future husband to draw me closer to God and I want to draw my future husband to God. Since this is something so important to me I have already started praying for this mystery man.

Since these prayers have begun (for myself, my friends, and the relationships that I see forming) I have decided that I want to make this prayer more my own. I am a journaler and a letter writer, so this is where my letters for my future husband began.

I want him to look back on the dates of these letters and know that I have been thinking about him for months and years before we started dating, possibly before we even met or became friends.

Dear Future Husband,

I don’t write letters to you to make myself feel like the star of a romantic movie (though when you read them it might seem that way, I don’t remember what I wrote most of the time). I write letters to you so you know that I want this to work, I have been praying for you for so long. I have been prying that I am ready for you, that you are ready for me, that we can help each other grow in God, in our friendship, and in this world. I write letters to you so that you know how much you mean to me.

Now and forever.

All my love,

Kyla