To The Human Who's Hurting,

Many times we find ourselves in a pit of uneasiness, a pit of sorrow. Often that sorrow is triggered by other people who we thought we could trust and that we loved inevitably. We start self-deprecating, searching for reasons that justify the motive behind these people lacerating your presence. And then you sit there, tearing yourself apart, ripping your originality and authenticity to shreds, because you feel as if you're just not good enough.

Well, I can guarantee one thing: they're wrong. They'll always be wrong.

Self-love is never easy to acquire. In this world we are under this orthodox impression that self-love is a language that only certain people who embody a certain image are fluent in, but how we are insanely wrong. Self-love is your personal dialect, your interpretation of treating yourself right. Self-love is being aware of your flaws and loving yourself anyway. But why is self-love an immense obstacle for countless number of people?

Think of someone you love incredibly. It can be a best friend, parent, relative, anyone you love whole-heartedly. Now imagine treating that person the way you treat yourself. In my case, I'd be treating my best friend as if she were waste. I would doubt her all the time, I would constantly tell her that she was the problem, instead of the people mistreating her. I would tell her she's just not good enough and that no matter how hard she tries, nobody will want her. Pretty rough relationship, I know. Pragmatically, the relationship we have with ourselves is the most important relationship we can have. For someone who loves to help others, I realize I can't fully help them until I fully help myself.

I've come to realize that the self-love is not a destination. It's an element of this greater composition in the production of your limitless identity. And speaking of identities, if you identify as a boy, you're allowed to have self-confidence issues. You're allowed to have emotions, and you're allowed to express them. The media does a phenomenally murderous job at reproducing each gender in their most unrealistic forms. Women and size zero, men with the perfect body, the conformities go on. It doesn't matter if you're a size zero or a twelve, if you have a six-pack or you don't-- what matters is how you feel about yourself, not what society thinks of you.

Changing who you are isn't a bad thing, though. If you're making a positive change to yourself, hell, accept that change! Try new things, get out of your comfort zone. But there's a difference in changing who you are to benefit your relationship with yourself, and changing who you are to benefit the public's opinion of you. Understand the difference, make mistakes, and evolve to be a better you.

The best thing I can share about self-love is being comfortable with the presence of yourself. Instead of fearing being alone, own it. Love it. Embrace it. Desire it. Inspire yourself to be a better version of who you are and never let that inspiration fade from your daily life. Spending time with yourself is so important because that honestly is the time you get to know yourself the best, and you'll really see how dope of a person you are when the world isn't working against you. You have so many things to offer that nobody else in this world can. Trust yourself and be engaged with yourself. You have no idea how many lives you can be altering by just being you.

To the human who's hurting, don't worry. You're not the only one struggling, and you're not the only one who's scared.

To the human who's hurting, don't worry. It doesn't matter who you are, somebody loves you for the way you are, not the facade you're tricking the rest of the world with.

To the human who's hurting, the hurting will stop the second you realize the problem isn't you.

To the human who's hurting, love yourself, because in the end, that love is enough.