For a long time, I often wondered why do we feel so strongly when someone betrays us or when something doesn't go our way. Why are we so quick to judgment if something doesn't go in accordance to our wishes? Is it because we expected too much? Or is it because we are so rigid in our notions and ideals?

Well, it was a constant question in my mind and it took me around 3 years to realize that the answer is actually quite simple. We, human beings, have a tendency to assume that everything revolves around us. We feel that we are the center point for everything and everyone in our lives and that is where the problem lies. Because, frankly, we aren't that important. At least not in everybody's life and it is about time that we stop taking everything personally.

Everyone has a story. And, all of us are the main characters of our own stories. We have our friends, family, love interests, etc. who are supporting characters in our story. But, that is not their only role. They have their own life, their own story, where they are the main character. And, honestly, it is high time that we accept this fact. Expecting your best friend to leave everything to tend to your smallest needs is stupid. Yes, he/she will try to be there for every important or serious incident but you can't expect them to be at your beck and call, 24 x 7. That is taking advantage of their love for you. Sure, the smallest problem looks humongous to you but you have to remember that they have their own life and problems too.

Also, you have to realize that something which bothers you might not bother someone else or if someone upset you unintentionally, they won't know until you tell them. You can't keep expecting people to magically know what's on your mind because they might have other things to worry about.

Why am I bringing this up? Because I see so many relationships (friends, family, or significant others) getting destroyed due to this small flaw in our thinking. We fail to understand that we are just a supporting character in other people's stories and that we have to stop expecting the world from them. Instead, we should be grateful for their time and efforts and people would certainly reciprocate your feelings too.

Just, for one second, stop and think. Before assuming or expecting or making a big fuss. And you will find that it is easier to be happy and feel loved. Because, while you deserve a good life and supporting people to love and pamper, so does the rest of the world too.