I am going to be honest, working on myself has never been a thought that has gone through my head. I used to think girls that said this were using it as an excuse for why they are single and alone. I have been the girl that found my self worth in a relationship and would jump from guy to guy to feel wanted and special (sorry dad). It wasn't until I decided to work on myself too that I realized the beauty of the process and most importantly of myself.
Finding myself
In order to find myself, taking time to do so was crucial. I am in college so of course, I am busy with school, work, and life in general. Finding some time to myself was not an easy process. I settled on waking up a little bit earlier to sip on some coffee, make a light breakfast, open the blinds and bask in the morning sunlight and just breathe. Taking my time in the morning versus rushing to even start my day in a timely manner makes all the difference. I have learned I am a morning person when I carry myself this way and would recommend anyone to do this. Also, it makes you feel a lot more like an adult.
I also started reading a lot more blogs and watching other peoples journeys. Blogs may seem silly but they are a lot more realistic to me than a self-help book that will make just feel bad about myself and my choices. Blogs, while they still try to present a perfect image, give a touch on reality and what happens in the real world. This actually inspired me to possibly make my own blog. I obviously love to write and that would be a great way to write about my own experiences.
Trust
This is where things got tricky. As much as I would love to deny it, I tend to doubt myself and the process I am taking to reach my goals. I had to change my mindset. Every time I thought "I cannot do this", I had to stop and redirect myself. My parents always told me I can do anything I put my mind to, and I just needed to start believing that. If I want to be a journalist someday - go be a journalist. If I want to get an A in a class, go to study my ass off. I am smart and driven and I have just needed to trust myself.
Taking a break from dating
Taking a break from dating has made all the difference. I have gone on dates here and there sure, but I have never had something serious come out of it. Whenever the possibility for that to happen arose, I selfishly backed out. Finding my identity as an individual rather than someone's girlfriend has made all the difference in this process. It is amazing how much time you have when you only have to worry about yourself, rather than a significant other.
All in all, working on myself has made me into a better individual. I know who I am better than ever and I am ready to become whatever I put my mind to.
