I would always have so many feelings regarding things that I went through growing up that I would not know how to express them. All the emotions will cluster up in my throat at one time and I would forget how to breathe. I needed to learn the process of how my feelings would affect the way I would act. It was a long process because I was scared that someone would read my personal thoughts. But I found a good journal and a good hiding space and began writing. You never want to get to a place where your thoughts and feelings overwhelm you to the point where breathing is out the window.

There are life events that can influence our emotions and will allow us to act a certain way. The loss of a loved one, new baby, work, school, and even marriage can cause unwanted feelings. It would be easier for us if we could honestly understand the way we feel and why. Why am I so Angry? Why do I have so much rage? At times people hold in so many emotions and can not understand why they have trouble calming down. It is quite known that stress is a killer. If we can not internalize why we feel the way we do then there could be lifetime risks. To face your stress with silence, does not get rid of the pain. Stress is like writing a paper. Sometimes, your words come out jumbled and you cannot make sense of what you even wrote. So you toss it out for a brand new sheet. But when you actually take your time and think it through, then your writing will be clear.

I have learned over the years that writing how I felt down allowed me to understand what I felt and where the pain, confusion, anger, etc. originated from. Picking up a pen and grabbing paper is the first step to understanding those crazy adjectives we all call feelings. You can start writing with one feeling and then realize that you were feeling something completely DIFFERENT.

I say that it is best to write exactly when something happens because that is when the feelings are new, fresh and ready to be explored. I found that waiting to write after something happens does not allow me fully understand the reason for my feelings. But we all have busy schedules and at times I am not able to get to a pen in the time of an event. Even making a little note on my cell phone and or tablet about how I felt at the moment, helps for when I write later.

Not everyone thinks writing is helpful, to some it may be a complete waste of time. However, it truly allows one to put everything out in the open for there eyes only. Writing allows you to lift the load that you are carrying on your shoulders. Just take a deep breathe and write.