Recently I was added to a group on Facebook called Girl Positive, this group is dedicated to helping each other out whether it be facing an insecurity or just needing some advice on a problem we have. In today's society women seem to do nothing but tear each other down.
Women have so much to deal with in our day to day lives and the last thing we need is another person, much less another woman, adding to our load. These days it seems like it is the goal to tear another woman down so that you look better, but here's the problem with that, when you tear another woman down it makes you look lower than her.
You have hurt your own reputation whilst trying to ruin hers. Not only this but how would you feel if she came back and said something about you? What if she pointed out your insecurities and flaws? It wouldn't feel too good.
We as women need to be building each other up. There's so much negative in the world and with the way things are going, I don't see it getting any better any time soon. We need to be complimenting each other, we need to be helping each other with our problems. There's absolutely no point in tearing another woman down. It doesn't make you look better.
The next time you find yourself wanting to say something negative to another woman, think, "would I want someone to say this to me?" Find yourself a group like I've found on Facebook or a group of girlfriends that are going to be supportive.
The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 5:11 "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." This goes for all people, not just women but the problem seems to lie within the female race. We need to encourage each other to be the best women that we can be. We need to love one another in spite of our flaws and insecurities. We need to stand up for each other when things are being said about us behind our backs.
There is always going to be someone who is tearing us down but together we can hold each other up, we can give each other the support we all need to live happy lives. It just takes one person to make a difference. Let that person be you.
In today’s society of being told no because I am a woman the last thing we need is another woman thinking she can tear me down because in reality it’s not making her higher, it’s making her lower.
We should build women up, help them be comfortable in their own bodies. Let them know that they are loved even when they feel like they aren’t worth loving. Women are quite possibly the best things this world has to offer and we need to protect them at all cost. So tell a random stranger she looks good day, tell her that her make up is “on fleek”, her outfit really compliments her body. You never know what she is going through.
Shout out to my "Little" K-Lee Naler for helping me with this article and for always being a woman I can depend on to build me up! :)