Men and women are not the same.
Men can’t do some things that women can do.
Women can’t do some things that men can do.
I know that lately, the above statements have been hard to swallow. Women are tired of being homemakers. Men are no longer looked at as stronger or as a leader in the home. Women can do it all now. As women, we have begun pushing ourselves to be strong in our careers and love in our families. We have to be successful in every area of our lives. We have to be perfect.
The expectation of being perfect has taken the toll on our lives. Not only is it affecting us as women, but it also effects everyone else in our lives.
We don’t want men to lead us.
We want to take care of ourselves and everyone else.
But we have forgotten that we are not the same as men. Biologically, we are completely different. More often than not, men are going to be physically stronger. Men are going to be able to handle the tasks that come with high leadership.
Does that mean that women can’t be successful? No. Does that mean that women can’t be CEOs or bosses? No. Obviously, there are plenty of successful women in the world.
My only question is this, are these women happy? Do they truly enjoy their job? I see so many women who are wearing themselves thin trying to be perfect.
As a woman, I seek to be a leader in the way I raise my family, and in the way, I help others in my life. I find myself to be successful when I see my man succeed. I love standing by him through our lives together. I know that when I stand behind him, I support him and I am a big part of his success. This makes me happy.
He is different than I am. He wants to protect me, guide me, and lead me. He has a different goal in life. He wants to see me safe and cared for.
He and I are not the same.
Is that bad? No. I don’t want to be the leader in our relationship. I don’t want to be the breadwinner. In some opinions that would make me a doormat. But I feel powerful when I stand behind him. I know that if he needs me, I have the chance to hold him up. I can encourage him to keep going when he wants to give up.
Ladies, do you know what that means? You’re needed more in those moments than in any other time.
Do you want to be the CEO? Do it.
Do you want to be the part of the President’s staff? Do it.
Do you want to be President? Do it.
Do you want to be a stay at home Mom? Do it.
Do it with a joyful heart. Remember that when you don’t feel needed at work or in life, you are needed in your home. Your man and your family will always need you. They need your compassion, your empathy and your ability to juggle five hundred things at once. Your family needs you, too.
That’s part of being a woman. The family is something most women hold dear to their heart. Wives, Moms, Girlfriends...we worry. We worry about how our family and friends are doing. What if they need us?
When we are done after a long day of trying to fight gender stereotypes, we can find comfort in the fact that we are different than men. We are made as women to be more empathetic. We can sense others needs and that’s a gift. We don’t need to be men, we don’t need to be better than men...we need to be women. We need to use our femininity and our gift of empathy, in our homes.
In our homes, we don’t have to be perfect or the best. We need to be present. We need to be compassionate, patient, loving, and we need to be there.
When we don’t feel needed anywhere else, we should remember that we are needed in our home.
We need our home.
