Spending time with your crush is great, but how do you plan on getting there? Often, you overthink what to do when interacting with your crush or even what to say.
Follow these eight rules, and you may win your crushes heart.
1. Be Direct
A common theme found in college dating is "playing games." Matt Bryant, freshman at East Carolina University (ECU) says "it's so high school playing hard to get. We all want something, just say it." Vulnerability is found to be very attractive, and just admitting your feelings for the person is much more efficient than leading them on just to fall back. When admitting your feelings to someone, be nonchalant about it. Don't make it seem like having feelings is a dramatic ordeal that is life or death. "You make it awkward when you're dramatic about having feelings, be cool," says Bryant.
2. Show Confidence
Confidence is sexy, for both parties. Anna Drage, who met her current boyfriend in college says that confidence shows you respect yourself and have standards. If you show that you are secure on yourself, then that will translate into the relationship you hope to have. D'Wayne Crawford, freshman football player at ECU says "You can spot a confident girl easy. She walks and acts differently." Show you have confidence by standing straight up, looking someone in the eyes when talking to them, and speaking clearly.
3. Find Common Interests
If you like someone, ask them about their interests. If you want to seem like you just so happen to show the same interests, then pay attention to what they talk about, if they wear anything routinely with a message, and what they may listen to. "You need to at least pretend like you like the same things until you really figure out what you do," says Bryant. If you begin to talk about the things that they find interesting, then you will instantly feel closer and you will have something to talk about.
4. Be Their Source of Motivation
This is particularly important if your crush is apart of some sort of sports team. Game day morning send them a "Good Luck" text message with an emoji that would remind them of you. Try not to go overboard with this and act like a groupie. "You can tell when a girl is being genuine. That's the girl you want to keep," says Crawford. Go to their games/meets and cheer them on! They may even see you out in the crowd.
As for things other than sports, encourage them to work their hardest academically. Check on that person in whatever class they are struggling with. Shayna Tucker, a freshman at ECU says, "I don't always share how I feel, I like it when a guy I'm talking to checks up on me." Whatever you can do to show that you care about this person, you want to do.
5. Notice the Small Things
Shayna, Anna, Matthew and others all agree that your crush will immediately know you pay close attention to them if you point out something small they have changed about themselves. If they've been working out and you notice some gains, mention that! If they got a hair cut or a new pair of shoes, let them know you like it. Anything you notice that is different about your crush, let them know that you recognize that difference.
6. Ask Them About Themselves
We live in a world full of narcissists, and whether they are narcissistic or not, everyone loves to talk about themselves. Ask your crush to tell you something about themselves no one would know or a cool story. "I hate at a job interview they ask you to 'tell me about yourself' but when a guy does it, I love it. I can go on and on," says Tucker. The least they can do is laugh and share an awkward moment of you guys trying to find something interesting about each other.
7. Show Off Your Sense of Humor
Share a few laughs and find what they see as humorous funny as well. "I can't have a boring girlfriend. She needs to laugh so I know she's happy about life," says Bryant. If you can, formulate an inside joke that you can occasionally bring up between just you too. This helps showcase a bit of exclusivity.
8. Keep Up Your Appearance
In order to attract someone, you think looks nice, keep yourself up. This doesn't mean you must look like a model, but at least look clean. Walk out in clothes that fit and aren't wrinkly or dirty. Show that you care about your outside appearance just as much as your inside. You can do this by keeping your breath fresh, keeping your hair clean, smelling good, cleaning your fingernails, etc. This lets your crush know that you are well kept and possibly responsible.
Following through with these tips can be tough, but remember to be brave. Bravery is appealing to just about anyone, and your confidence to take action should be enough to win your crush over.
