I recently saw the film, “How to be Single” and it was everything I needed to hear in my life right now. Something the main character, Alice, said during the movie really resonated with me and I feel like maybe it was meant just for me. She said, “I’m so obsessed with the idea of being in love, that I just, it’s like…I completely lose myself. Like, I forget what I want and I just disappear.” When she said that during the film, I could feel it deep down because it is something I have tried to deny for so long. I used to believe that being single was like some kind of sob story and that I was just waiting for that one person who thought I was worth it. But, now I see that being single is so necessary to figure out who you are and what you want in life. If you spend all of your time believing that by bumming free drinks and slutting it up, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. I have been learning so much about myself these past few months and I’ve realized how important it is for me to be on my own right now. I don’t know who I am and I’m not sure I’ve given myself enough credit.

I have started to believe it when people say that if you worry about finding someone less and start focusing on yourself, that special someone will suddenly pop up, but I’m not going to enjoy being single just in the hopes of meeting someone. I’m going to enjoy it because I want to be the independent, beautiful woman that I know I can be. I want to figure out what all my little quirks are and be myself unapologetically so that when I finally do meet that special someone, I’ll know it’s because I know exactly who I am. We’re young and have every right to be selfish right now and there is no perfect moment to meet someone and there is no perfect scenario. There’s just life and the unpredictable moments in between everything. I am so irrevocably happy to be in the place I am right now in my life. Every one of us needs that time to realize how awesome we are.

I am beginning to realize just how awesome I am and how the right person is still going to think I’m amazing even when I think I look like a troll. That’s how it should be, but no one will find that by searching for it. You have to be patient and learn to love yourself more than anything or anyone. I look at myself in the mirror and put on makeup not for other people, but for myself and I walk outside with confidence glowing from my skin. If a boy doesn’t think you’re worth it, he is obviously not the right one, but you’re still hot and the most important person to believe you’re hot is you. So, enjoy the time that you have to be single because it’s your time and you may never have another time to just be you.