As life goes on, we tend to think of those "what if" moments. What if you didn't break up with this person? What if you chose a different school? What if you never met that guy at that party that one time? What if.
But, we can't hold onto the "what ifs" of life. We have to let go of what is gone and move forward with what we haven't gotten to yet. Dwelling on the moments that you cannot change will only keep you in the same place. You won't go back to those times, but you also won't move forward either. You're stuck... and no one likes being stuck in the same place.
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I don't believe that we should forget the past. I believe that remembering our losses, our mistakes, our bad decisions, is important in who we are in the future. What I do tend to believe, is the saying "everything happens for a reason." For the most part, it's true. Certain things happen in our past to help us become who we are today. Friends come and go, boyfriends and girlfriends will leave and come back and then leave again. But, if it wasn't for those moments, those people, you wouldn't be who you are. You wouldn't think the way you do, you wouldn't be doing the things you do, you wouldn't know some of the people you know. That one moment, that one person, whether good or bad, changed your life in some way. Cherish that.
You will be reminded of your past almost everyday, but don't always take it as a bad thing. Move on from the past, but don't forget it. We always want to hate those past moments or those past people, but we should thank them. As hard as that may be. Thank your ex's, thank the family you may not talk to. Thank those moments that you don't want to remember, but always will. They've made us who we are.
