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You Shouldn't Be In A Serious Relationship In College

College is a time for making connections and friends.

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You Shouldn't Be In A Serious Relationship In College
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Even if you want to, don't get into a relationship in college. College is the time for growth and independence for yourself, and being tied to a person condemns one's abilities to do that. Even if you don't think so, it will always bring you down. There's plenty of time for someone to be in a relationship in their lifetime, but for four years in college, it's the best to not rely on someone.


Just think about it, you're in your 18th,19th or 20th year of life on this earth. One doesn't even know what major is the correct choice for them, let alone if a relationship is. Everyone may think college is for adults and mature people, but really, we're still so young. We are literally just starting life and becoming ourselves. Not only this, but relationships are hard and need lots of focus and understanding. College already has many obstacles—having a serious relationship will only weaken that connection because neither is ready or mature enough to even understand how to keep a healthy relationship. It will only lead to anger against the other person, fighting and inevitable confusion. Plus, if you can grow alone, you can truly find out who you are. Only then you can get into a healthy relationship. During freshman and sophomore year, relationships are not a positive thing; they are a very negative weight.

Not only this, but we live in a generation of phones and internet. We have access to everyone in the world if we really wanted it. Parents and people that went to college when there was no access to these connecting technologies only had the small pool of their colleges kids to have relationships with. Since we have a large pool and these helpful connection abilities, we shouldn't keep our bonds narrow until we know for sure it's the right decision for ourselves.

People are waiting longer to be in relationships now. Statistically proven, today there is more success in relationships after college. Unlike the older generations, kids today are waiting longer which results in less divorce and happier connections.

Being friends with people and meeting everyone in college only allows for a positive outcome. Once you're old enough to feel good in a relationship, then one can do so. Stay connected and reasonable; don't break bonds—just see if connections are worth it in your life. If they are, they will eventually work out. For now, stay happy and independent until you're the best person you can be.

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