Over the years, I have noticed something very consistent and that is, no matter what happens I will always have myself. It took me quite some time to realize this, actually it took me years to realize this, and when I did, I started to learn a lot. I was always raised in a household where if you can, do for others, and in return I began to put myself at the bottom of the list. Starting with family, then friends, the sports teams, etc. till I was eventually burnt out and would lose my cool. I started learning that there are people in this world that will make the effort to repay you for everything you’ve done kind for them, and yet there are others that will take advantage of your time.
I remember going way back when, in high school around the holiday season, I would always get so excited to go out and spend all my money that I worked weeks to save on people who expected it. I remember vividly my mother telling me to “Save, Save, Save” and yet I insisted that I NEED to do this for everyone. But at the end of the day those people wouldn’t do the same for me.
There is only so many times that you can being to put others in front of you, until your left behind with no one. To be honest, you will keep doing it, get left behind and then slowly start to realize how annoying it is. I also want to clarify, this isn’t for those people that always put themselves first, however this is for the people that refuse to see that they are important too.
It doesn’t have to be all about you every time, there is little things you can start to do to begin to put yourselves first. First off, doing something for someone else is a privilege so don’t think that you are ever obligated to do something nice for else. When you start noticing that you have no time to do something for yourself, do the things that you really love, something needs to change.