Experiencing a loss is one of the most heartbreaking events a person will go through in the course of a lifetime. The death of a loved one is painful, and scary, and floods your head with memories, just reminding yourself that’s all you have of that person, the memories they’ve left behind. Yes, those memories are enough, enough to remember how they make you felt, how they made you laugh, or smile, or cry etc. But what some people question is did they know how much I loved them? Or the all famous comment, “I wanted the person to know how much I loved them, and how important they are to me, but it was too late.” PEOPLE, WHY ARE YOU WAITING? Why are you waiting to show the people in your life that you love them? It’s a simple four letter phrase, that you can never say too many times, or even use it too motivate your actions; actions out of love with never go overlooked, and the person will always remember how you made them feel so loved.

The most prominent place I can see this unequal balance of love given to people is over social media when someone passes away. People RUSH to flood their Facebook wall with post of love, and compassion, but why isn’t this a daily occurrence? Why is this only happening when someone passes away? Obviously, yes I understand people show support to family, and friends, through these post, and they honor their friend, and they memories they’ve had, but they should be showing this love for one another everyday. You can reach out to people, and say hey I’m thinking of you, and make them feel loved in that moment. One thing that bothers me the most is when people wait months without contacting someone, and then that person passes away and then suddenly they post on their wall saying how much they were going to miss them, where was that post weeks ago, when the person could actually see and think, “Oh hey I’m really loved.”

I had a friend in high school who loved people so well. His name was Bobby, and if there was one adjective I could use to describe him, it would be loving. He loved people so much that he would walk up to people, and say “hey, it looks like you need a hug.” He would take the time to make sure that person was feeling loved, and accepted, and this wasn’t a once a year thing, this was everyday. Everyday he went out of his way to make people feel loved, and I know I will always remember those countless hugs. If we could all just take a minute to realize how much better our lives would be if we replaced all the anger in our hearts for one another, with love and compassion for the people in our lives.

Life is way to short to be angry with other people. Nobody is promised tomorrow. So why are you waiting for a tomorrow to demonstrate how much you love and appreciate the people in your lives? I challenge everyone reading this to everyday demonstrate to your loved ones how much you love them, and care for them through your actions, and your words, and push away the anger, and the hate. You never know when God will call them home, and you want the last memory you have with that person to be loving, and not hateful.