Self-worth and self-love: two things most of us, unfortunately, are missing. Learning how to love yourself and valuing yourself is much harder than what it sounds like, but learning how to do this is important. I have struggled with it for the majority of my life, but there comes a time in life when you just need to grab it by the horns and focus on it. There is so much pain that comes from not having enough self-worth, you let yourself get hurt and you let yourself do things that you know are not right and are not what you want to do. In our generation, I think there is a larger lack of valuing yourself than in others. There is too much focus on how many “likes” you will get on Instagram or Facebook, but if you truly loved yourself, would it matter? You would know that it does not define you and it does not mean that much in the “real” world.

I believe that there are many more girls that are struggling with valuing themselves rather than boys. Especially when it comes to boys and the extent some girls will degrade themselves because they truly have not learned to value themselves before a boy. I probably sound like a mom, but in no way should you change for a boy and if you have to to make them be with you, then he truly doesn’t want you.

Valuing yourself does not mean that you are cocky or over-confident. Many confuse these two, but valuing yourself just simply means that you have decided to emphasize your own well-being, yourself, and loving every single part of you.

This is not something that you can change in one day; it's hard, but in the end, it will be worth it. In learning how to love yourself and value yourself, you are embracing your flaws and what you are not so good at. While also learning how to put more emphasis on what you are great at, make sure that you include that in every day of your life, and in the majority of all the things that you do.

“Self love, self respect, self worth. There is a reason they all start with 'self.' You cannot find them in anyone else.”