Who really wants to go through break ups? Obviously, no one I hope. The countless hours of crying or thinking about all the what if's or the memories, it hurts. The love you once felt is gone and you wonder where it all went wrong. Everything sucks...but it's only for a little bit.
I think it's important that everyone goes through a heartbreak at least once in their life. It may sound crazy but you never know how it feels to until you go through it. Whether it was a month-long relationship that you completely fell for or a five-year relationship, the heartbreak is still there. Of course, I'm not saying go break up with your person right now but it's an important lesson you want to learn. The heartbreak will either make you or break you. I almost let it break me but thank God it didn't.
Through my years of high school and college, many of my close friends have gone through break ups or have talked to someone that eventually didn't work out at the end. To be completely honest, I told my friends that I understand it hurts but I don't think I really did until it happened to me one day. Yes, people tell you right and left, "I understand" or "I know, sweetheart" or even "You'll be okay." I respect that, only if you've gone through one. You don't understand fully what it feels like until it happens to you. You don't know how much the heart really aches.
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You learn a lot from a heartbreak. I learned who actually cared about me and was there for me. Yeah, you have over 1,000 friends on Facebook but who do you turn to when you're hurting the most? I will never forget all my friends that were there for me, asking me if I was okay, if I wanted to plot a great revenge, or naming all the crappy events and memories so it helps me get over it faster. I learned who my true friends were.
I also learned that you cannot control everything in life. As much as IfeellikeI have my classes, work, friends, and basically everything together, you cannot control your fate with a person. If someone wants to walk out of your life, let them. Let them leave and don't ever let them come back to you. They obviously left for a reason and you shouldn't try to hold onto something that wants to be let go of. You are worth more than that. There are a million fish in the sea, why get stuck with one that doesn't want you? You cannot control the way someone feels about you. You cannot make them love you even though that's the only thing you want.
I also grew a lot closer to my parents. My dad told me about his relationships in high school and college. I don't think we would've ever really talked about it if it wasn't for what happened to me. My mom took me shopping multiple days in order to keep my body and mind busy. Honestly, shopping with your mom is basically walking and talking about life with your mom. Shopping is actually therapeutic. I thank my parents for understanding me through the lows of my life and being there for me every second of the way. Asking me if I was okay every day while we talked on the phone 100 miles away and reminding me there are bigger things in life.
And from this heartbreak, I learned to cherish time. When you're driving with someone and you get stopped at every light, cherish those moments. Cherish every hug, every kiss, and everything about that person too. Not so you remember it, but to know what it feels like to be in love with someone. Because you may think you will never feel that way again, but you will. You'll find someone that loves everything about you whether it's the way you laugh or the way you say a certain word, someone will help you heal the wounds in your heart and make you fall in love all over again. And you will fall in love with someone harder than before. Sure, you may be scared to take chances and fall for someone again but heck, life's about taking chances. If you don't take chances, how could you ever know if that's the right person for you?
As tough as it was for me to go through everything, it made me so much stronger than who I was before the heartbreak. Shit happens, but there is something good in everything. It might be hard to see that when you're going through it, but I promise you, you will feel whole again. And when you do feel whole again, don't be afraid to love again.
