I want to say that by the time I am 25, I am married.

That, somehow, someone moved past all my awkwardness and decided to pop the question. To his relief and mine I end up saying yes. I want to gloat and say that our wedding was something out of this world and everyone was envious. That we end up going to our honeymoon destination spot and, knowing me, it would have been a battle between Italy or France. Also, that we, unlike other couples, decided to travel and write all about our adventures all across the world. There was no settling because we wanted to live life to the fullest.

I want to say all of that happened at the age of 25. However, sitting right here in the past at 21 I find it hard to believe.

Realistically, thinking about getting married to someone in three years seems too soon. I would have just graduated from college at the age of 22 or 23 depending on my class weight for next few semesters. After that, I would just start on the track to become a professional writer and news correspondent. Then the daunting task of finding a place to live would take over and knowing my line of work I be moving in and out of places all the time.

So the thought of marriage is stuck way behind in my mind right now. I am not saying that I wouldn’t get married if I found the one and felt that it would be okay to do it at 25. The plan has always been to first be a little more settled down and work a few years in my profession. That I would have gotten some of my wanderlust out of my system and wouldn’t have to move every other month. Just enough to press pause on time and get my feet wet in the cement to give my future spouse all the time that they need. That they deserve.

Knowing myself I like to be with the person I am seeing. I don’t want to be gone all the time and only see them a few times out a few months. When I find that special someone they will have all of my focus because I would be confident in myself. I would not be uncertain about life and need to step away from our relationship to go find out who I really am. That journey would have passed in my younger and stupider years. Now the next chapter would be about us and how we would grow with each other.

I want to say that I would marry in my early twenties but it might be better to try for later. Right now I am too young to plan out a wedding venue when I still order take out.

So don’t rush into anything just because your heart is telling you to do it. Think about it first because sometimes the mind has to be behind the decision too.