We are stuck on ideals, unrealistic circumstances and high expectations that can only be met in an idealist’s world such as Hollywood movies. Well, let’s face it, ladies. Those movies are meant for us to hope and dream of the guy who can build an ice rink, string lights perfectly around the rink (on every tree) and find a romantic song to whiz you around all in a 30-second time frame…when you find that guy let me know because I am pretty sure he does not exist (unless he is in the hallmark Christmas guy).

I am confident that I am not the only one that is guilty of these over idealistic thoughts of what a guy should be. Many women do this and we know full well that we are setting ourselves up for failure. We forget that men are human. If you are not capable of a 30-second scene change with the perfect weather, romantic lighting, and a romantic song… then I am sure he will not be either.

What the media projects is not real, but sure makes us believe that it can be done. The little things your guy does will speak louder than any unrealistic male movie star running across the streets of New York in record time, to catch the girl that just ran to get on the plane that will take her to another country to explore what else is out there because…

The best thing to do when something doesn’t work out is run, right? (wrong, if we ran every time we would be broke in 2 places: our wallet and most likely we would break a leg along the way). And do you really think she had a ticket ready for that exact moment in her life in case things didn’t work out? (Probably not, let’s really think about this one)

Okay and for the guy…

1. Do you really think he can run that fast across New York?

2. And do you honestly believe that this guy has impeccable timing to catch her right before she steps foot on the plane?

Maybe your man can’t run across a city in record time, build an unreal movie scene in 30 seconds or woo you with surprise after surprise, but I’m sure what your man can do is make you happy. Make you happy with little things that make you smile. Happiness doesn’t come from the things that fill the space or grand gestures that need to be posted on Instagram, but it comes from the simple moments that take your breath away.

What the media projects to us women is STUFF that doesn’t exist, STUFF that creates a false misrepresentation of what a man should be, STUFF that takes away the true beauty of unplanned events that is called life. You can’t plan for genuine moments between another human being, they just happen. Be grateful that your man is human and different from what the media projects because otherwise, you might still be searching for someone that doesn’t exist.

Disclaimer for the LADIES:

This DOES NOT mean that you should lower your expectations for what you value and what you believe in, but it does mean that no man is perfect and there will be times where you feel like you are in a movie scene, but not every moment is like this.

Disclaimer for the MEN:

This DOES NOT mean that you should stop trying to make your woman happy (unless she puts no effort in, then maybe it's not a compatible match). This means that we understand that it's unfair to set unrealistic expectations for you when they cannot be met by any human being. We realize you're not perfect and neither are we.

Nobody is perfect, don't wish for more than a human can do and everything will be quite alright.