I am a strong believer in constantly trying to grow in self-love and respect, but I know that will never happen if I beg for it. I refuse to ask to be wanted in return, for someone’s affection, time, effort, or commitment. It’s demeaning and degrading. If someone can’t give you these things effortlessly then it is not worth settling for. Everyone deserves a love that is effortless and limitless.

Often times we are so desperate to love and be loved in return that we comprise. You deserve someone that makes you feel incredibly special. Be with someone who is proud to kiss you in public, show you off, and ultimately call you theirs. We are so desperate to love and be loved in return that we resort to settling for a someone unworthy of the love we give in return.

Go for someone who is proud of you, and that loves you limitlessly, flaws and all. If they walk away, questioning your worth is inevitable. You are enough. Your worth has nothing to do with someone’s reason for walking away, they couldn’t appreciate what they had in the moment. Commitment scares people, but you have to decide whether you defeat your fears or keep chasing for love.

Throughout our lives, we are sought after by people that believe they can give us the “world.” It is our choice whether we choose to settle or wait for the kind of love we deserve. Love is something that takes time, it’s not something you can rush. It is a feeling of pure bliss and a sense of pride that person is “yours”. You should know they will be by your side through thick and thin, that their love will never waver. When chaos comes, the ability to be a rock for your loved one is huge. It’s a mutual understanding and ability to communicate no matter the situation.

You will know the kind of love worth waiting for. A love you never have to beg for. A love that is given freely. Until then, know you are worthy of nothing less. When you learn to love yourself and come to the realization you are deserving, only then will love find you. It’s discovered when we stop looking.

You are good enough, and no one should ever make you feel differently.

You will experience heartbreak, nights spent crying into your pillow, seeking advice from friends and family, and feeling alone. Everyone I have truly gotten to know has felt and done all of these things. It’s okay not to be okay, and to be hurting. It’s human.

Healing is a slow and painful process. There are no timelines for a process as hard as mending your heart. No one is worth begging for, especially if you feel broken. Walk away from a toxic relationship. Instead of chasing it, turn around and walk the other way. If they truly want you they will chase after you or realize what they are missing out on. Trust in fate, and you will do just fine without him.