I probably shouldn't have written this after watching a Nicholas Sparks movie but here it goes.

Why do we have to go through a hardship? Why do we have to feel like our heart was ripped out? Why do we feel like our bodies are empty? Why do we cry? Why do we hurt?

Should we avoid any type of love so we don't feel heartbreak?

Should we close ourselves off to spare that dreadful experience?

People warn you. They tell you all that it happens. If someone warns you about it and you still make choices that end in it, then are you being dumb? No, you're being human.

I like to believe everything happens for a reason. We have to feel pain. Pain is good. Pain is healthy. Pain is the biggest reality check you can ever have. Pain sucks. Heartbreak sucks. We feel it when we get a phone call that someone has passed, when we go through a breakup, during a sad movie, or when your plans don't work out. We all go through it, sometimes all at once and sometimes not. I like to believe the hard stuff is actually the best stuff because we grow. We have to face ourselves in a way that we never do when we are happy.

F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote, "For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again."

We always sit when we go through a pain and think we are the only one feeling this miserable. We aren't, we never are. That doesn't make it any less unbearable. I see people going though it and all I can say is "I'm sorry" and everyone does. That's all we can say because we all are sorry. We are sorry because we all know how heartbreak feels. We have all seen it: in ourselves, in each other, in movies, and in books.

Don't by any means avoid it. Talk to the guy if he gives you all the butterflies. Love with everything you have. Love your family, love your friends, love him or her or whoever. Love is everything. We can't love without knowing one day we will experience a loss of that love and that breaks my heart.I wouldn't ever tell anyone to give that up. It's the most dreadful and draining thing I have ever experienced. Just know everyone does and you are not alone.