Our generation is immensely different than generation before us. The clothes, the trends, the people, the whole world was practically a different place. Most things have changed for the better, but other things have changed for the worst. The new innovation with technology, peoples lifestyles, and business have been booming.
Dating, relationships, and partnerships are nothing like they used to be. The ways of dating have changed in such a dramatic way.
Many of those feelings revolve around past experiences with relationships with people; good and bad ones. Today, most of us are afraid of the commitment aspect of a relationship. Now, I am not saying everyone in my generation is like this, but through person experiences, I can say most of us are.
"Back in the day," dates were always planned out, romantic and without distraction. The boy would call the girl, make a date, set a time, pick her up and meet her parents, all on the first date! Today, first dates start as texting or snap chatting each other with no face to face connection. They usually end up with the intention of a random hookup and no intention of a relationship. There are those certain individuals out there who do not see first dates that way. They are rare people, but I have faith they still exist.
Today, a lot of us are afraid. We are afraid of commitment, meeting new people and opening up and sharing personal facts about ourselves. This happens with bad past experiences. For example, if someone get cheated on by their significant other, they will have a huge commitment issue. They will be afraid of being with someone else in fear that they will get cheated on once again. If someone comes out of a bad, abusive relationship, they will have a huge trust issue. That is a traumatizing situation and it really affects how one continues their dating life.
People change for different reasons and situations which I totally understand. I would hope certain situations do not alter ones life so such a dramatic point where they totally change they views or way of life.
So, in the end, we are all afraid of feelings in a way. We are all scared to start something new and unfamiliar to us and that is normal. But, if we do not take those chances we could miss something that could change our life in the best way we can imagine.
I encourage for everyone to take risks, try new things, and meet new people regardless of past experiences. Moving on is the only way to heal and be happy with what your future will bring you. Be spontaneous, free, and yourself because then you will always be happy. No matter what.