Let me tell you, dear reader, waiting for the one is worth the wait. I can already picture your eyes rolling into the back of your head and I can almost hear the words "cheesy" and "puke" being uttered already. Hear me out. When I use the word "wait" I don't necessarily mean that you should all wait to have sex until you have found "the one." No, I am not here to preach. While that sounds like a fairy-tale, life doesn't always unfold so perfectly. With that being said, don't give up on waiting for "the one." I merely suggest struggling through the heartache, trudging along the dead-end relationships, all to figuring out what you don't want in a relationship. Soon enough, reader, you will know without a doubt exactly what you are looking for and that is when you will finally find it.
1. He will always motivate you to try harder and to be a better person.
Finding someone who makes you want to be the best version of yourself, is truly a blessing. Not only do you have the opportunity and support to improve yourself, but your friends and family get to enjoy the changes as well. This alone is nearly life altering, the chance to see the world in a brighter and more beautiful light is such an unbelievable bonus.
2. But, he will never try to change you.
These first two points go hand-in-hand and admittedly, the line that shouldn't be crossed is sometimes difficult to distinguish. Just know this, "the one" will love you for your rawest and most purest form. Be true to yourself and let him know from the beginning just how fabulous you are. What's to change, my dear?
3. He doesn't embarrass you or make you feel shameful.
This is crucial in a relationship, or at least in mine. Unlike past relationships, he won't make you feel worse about yourself in the time of doubt. We are human, we are not perfect. That is okay. Again, that is okay. As women we tend to over-think and over-analyze everything. So, a night of too much to drink or whatever it may be that causes some sense of guilt can easily send you into a whirl wind of crazy thoughts and emotions. But guess what? "The one" will not make you feel guilty or cause further embarrassment for enjoying yourself a little too much. The love "the one" has for you outweighs your otherwise little mistakes and oopsies, so sleep it off and get over it because he already has.
4. (Prepare yourself for a cheesy one...) He is your best friend.
When you have a good day, he is the first one you want to tell. When you have a bad day, he is the first one you want to tell. You have jokes that no one else would understand or should. You can sit in utter silence and not feel awkward at all, but his mere presence is more than enough to make you happy. You high-five and do handshakes because that is completely normal, obviously. You have a very healthy, competitive relationship (but you are better at everything, don't let him tell you otherwise). Waiting for "the one" will bring you many things, many great things, but an everlasting friendship will be among the first and the most important.
5. He loves you when you aren't so lovable.
It is okay to not always be so happy and upbeat. We all have our days, but he will do whatever he can to make it a little easier on you. It is also okay to disagree. It is not okay to be disrespectful towards each other, and he won't be. No matter the circumstances, he will eventually apologize (and so should you). Because I am sure the disagreement was silly anyhow (like maybe he didn't understanding the rules of scrabble or something as simple as that...ahem).
6. He lets you hog the bed.
Of course, he will tell everyone that you hog the bed. He will make it sound like you are a huge pain in the rear. He will go on and on about how he gets no sleep. He will dramatically claim that he freezes to death every night because the blankets are half on your side and half on the floor (which in all fairness, they are). But, when it comes to crawling into bed at night and every single night, he will not wake you to scoot over. Reader, take that for what it is.
7. He makes you feel irreplaceable.
I have long worried about this concept in relationships. In fact, until I found "the one" I always felt replaceable in previous relationships, and obviously I was (thank god for that). But, he wont make you feel like that. Reader, he loves you just as much as you love him. For the first time ever, you will actually believe that and you will never question him.
8. You are a team.
You work together as not only lovers, but as partners. May it be grocery shopping; he pushes the cart and you cross off the grocery list. You wash and fold his clothes, even though you seriously hate doing laundry and have your own to do yet. You spend your day off from school or work cleaning up after him and he does the same for you. Most importantly, you LOVE it! I can't explain why, you just do. You will understand.
9. He will do anything to make you happy.
It is the rarest thing, to know someone who cares more about your own happiness than you do. He will. He will let you have the last slice of pizza, even if you have already had a piece more than him. He will let you shower first after working out, even when you offer to rotate every other. He wants to watch the movies you want to watch and will let you pick supper, not because he doesn't care to make the decision but because he literally wants to do what will make you the happiest. He will rummage around the pitch black bedroom looking for clothes to wear to work early in the morning just so he doesn't have to wake you by turning on the bedroom light. Reader, you will find more happiness than you have ever known and especially in the little things. You know as well as I do that those are the things that matter the most.
10. You will be thankful for all the previous heart breaks.
Because if it wasn't for them, you would have never found "the one." Reader, you would do it all again in a heartbeat. I assure you.
The truth is, this list could go on and on, and for me it really does. So do me a solid (and yourself) and be willing to succumb to heartbreak. It will hurt for a little while, it will hurt badly. But then one day, it won't hurt so badly anymore. You will forget "so and so's" name after some much needed girl time and a couple gallons of ice cream (or drinks). After all, it is only temporary. For one day you will realize you had never really loved at all, until you have loved "the one."
