I’m sure you’ve seen—if not read—articles and posts about “why the girl who skipped the party phase is the best girlfriend” and “here’s to the girl who would rather spend a night in”. Personally, I find these cliché testaments rather irritating. Not only are they condescending, but the judgement placed upon those who would rather go out is absurd.

First of all, these posts talk down on those who enjoy going out to social events. They give the impression that the people who would rather watch Netflix all night are better friends and girlfriends. But what validity does this have? Just because someone enjoys partying does not mean they are automatically a fake friend or a girlfriend inclined to cheat.

Some people are extroverts. They like to go out to gatherings with lots of people and make friends. Does this make them inherently less enjoyable to hang out with than introverts? Does this make them less genuine, less capable of intelligent conversation, than those who like to keep to themselves? No. The way a person likes to spend their weekends does not guarantee any personality trait.

The judgement placed on those who like to go out rather than avoid the party scene is not just. Girls who enjoy social events are not better or worse than girls who want to avoid being social. These posts reflect badly not only on those they judge, but on the people who believe them, too.